The H and bathroom habits.

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We have 2 bathrooms.

The en-suite is Hs bathroom. The big bathroom is the girls bathroom. But they are not private and perdonal. Anyone is allowed to use any bathroom.

However H insists on using just 'his' bathroom. Even if I am asleep in the bedroom. The door sticks a bit so opens and closes with a bang.

This means I get woken up.

Admittedly, this morning, it was 9am. But I was having a very rare lie-in. But he has done it before many times even if I am trying to have a sleep before night shifts.

So, I just asked him not to. Not nagging or whiney, just 'we have 2 bathrooms. Please don't use the en-suite if I am in bed'.

He has huffed off in a strop. All taking umbrage and 'oh, I'm sorry. I won't do it again' (in hurt tones).

Please tell me I am not insane and unreasonable.

he is mental

I often suspect he is further along the spectrum than DD.

I think I might have to kill him.

It's just mean and nasty to wake someone up.

just get the door planed.

YANBU! Why would you purposely disturb someone asleep when there is another bathroom? Odd.

I could. Or he could just not use it?

Find a way to furnish it with a lock, then lock it and keep the key, so the inconsiderate oik can't use it.

He sounds like a child throwing a strop!

What's so special about the ensuite?

Maybe you should rename it your bathroom...afterall if your girls have one and manchild expects to have one...what about you?

Or as someone said have it plained! But that would still probably wake you.

I use the en-suite bathroom on purpose and noisily when DH has pissed me off and he is sleeping whilst I am fuming

Is this something that really bothers you, or are you just a bit put out about it?

If you are serious then you must tell him and make him see that you mean it. How can he be so disrespectful?

I wouldn't put up with it but if you don't really mind that much you can let it carry on and moan about it now and again.

YANBU! It is selfish, and next time he huffily says he won't do it again, just say "Thanks, I'd appreciate it.". Does he genuinely forget and just think "I need a shower, this is where I have my shower.". A few years ago, it would have baffled me that anyone can think like this, but after living with DH for 6 years, no-ones thought processes (or lack of) surprise me anymore.