AIBU to expect my husband

[MadameNJ]

To answer me when I speak to him, even if it's just to ask me to wait a few more minutes while he finishes pissing about on his phone?

Are you married to my DP??

Leave the bastard

YANBU I have stopped addressing DH when he is in close proximity to any form of 'device'..... And he wonders why I don't want the DC to have them! I would spend my life being totally ignored....

Yanbu and mine does this too & it's soooo irritating.

Also extends to the dcs.

Almost sitting on his lap 'dad? Dad!? DAD?? Daaaaaaaddddy??!' repeat.. He actually does not hear anything when that bloody phone is near him

ARGH!!!!!! Mine too...

And mine...

My son does it too, my DH will actually get very irritated and tell DS off!

Ditto with mine. Any form of screen.

Mine too! Watches crap on the tv and then can't understand why it's 530 and no sign of dinner. Um because I've been asking you what you want all afternoon and you've ignored me, despite me sitting next to you on the sofa. Cue him running to the supermarket and making it all himself.

So it's normal then! Don't think I'll leave him, lovesbeingwoken am going to try and train him to at least answer our daughter when she's learned to speak!

I think its worse when they make some attempt to respond.....because then you make the fatal mistake of thinking they heard you, took in the information and will therefore not need reminding. Then, two minute later Im being accused of 'not reminding' him about things.

So it's not just my DP then.

Yes this is also the norm in our house too!!

DH was so bad at "not hearing" that I sent him for a hearing test.

The person doing the test made him ring me up to tell me he had perfect hearing, so must be ignoring me

What was he doing on the phone? Pissing about covers a lot! If he was in the middle of a phonecall, YABU. Otherwise YANBU.

Damnit. I thought my irritation & anger was justified, seems he's just a normal arse. I just love when he says ' I didn't realise you we're talking to me', in the evening, when kids are in bed.

I actually had to take the step of banning iPhone at dinner table, for a 32 year old man. He agreed, apologised, then after a week I caught hum peeking under the table! Fucking cricket scores.

It's the "I heard u stop going on about it" thing that annoys me. If u don't respond how do I know u heard me???

do what i do, i phone him.

Well, I suppose it depends on whether what you said to him needed a response?

Oh no, if we are all going to expect responses from our DPs/DHs, then they will expect responses from us when we are MNing!! Leave them alone, then they will leave us alone.

YANBU. are we all married to the same man?

I think this problem predates screens, my husband is a prime offender but I remember my dad being the same when reading the newspaper or magazines about his hobbies...

I've spent most of today talking to myself! Then he wonders why I have a go?! Don't suppose anyone know's a cure?

It depends, a little, on what you are saying. Is it important eg 'Will you put the bin out?' or 'What do you want for dinner?' or are you wittering on about nothing, as some people tend to do. If you are doing the old 'Well I said to Mary, you never, and she turned round and said, well I did, and aren't these shoes nice, ooh but you couldn't walk in them and yeah so Mary said, and I turned round and said...' then you can't blame him for tuning out.

My DH is watching football while talking to his mates on ipad, I'm not even going to waste my breath on trying to talk to him.

Unnerve them,

"I'm just putting this bid in, say now if you don't think I should"