to not want to go on DSis hen day thing?

[MsIngaFewmarbles]

My DSis is getting married soon and her friends have been organising her hen do. Received a message today letting me know what they have arranged and asking which parts I want to attend.

Oh god it is awful. Spa day in lovely local place they mentioned before has been changed to a local hotel's facilities which IMO arw nowhere near as pleasant. Cocktail making classes plus meal are £50. Night out is to include a stripper, condom earrings, male blow up doll with fiances face on it etc etc.

It is definitely not my scene at all. WIBU to say to DSis that I dont want to go and could I take her out for a meal instead (different time obv)

If it were me I'd go and leave after the meal so she can have fun with her friends

While it isnt your scene, it might well be hers. So suck it up no puns intended and try and have a good time or dont go at all. Nowt worse than a killjoy on a night out.

How close are you to your sister?

Tbh, I would just go along with it for someone I'm close to, but I wouldn't feel like I was looking forward to a do like that either. It's a one off event for something important to your sister, I think you do have to make some effort.

Can you just go for the meal? Or just the spa bit, even though its not the greatest of places?

It is for your sister, I think you have to go and play ball, literally. It is only one night after all.

YANBU. I wouldn't go to the night-out bit. Sounds hideous. Could you do the meal and then go - you could always get someone to ring at a set time with a "sick child emergency" or similar.

I really dont want to upset my sister bit it seems so tacky and horrible. I'm not sure I could laugh it off. I dont know many of her friends well so I'm a bit worried that if this is their idea of a good time we arent going to hit it off. Maybe just the spa and cocktails/meals then.

Go to the day & meal and then sneak off :)

And they've no doubt moved the spa venue so it's cheaper and more people can afford it, which is understandable

Its only £7.50 pp different. Ah well.

Sounds quite similar to my hen do, which my mum organised .

To each his own...

Oh and YANBU, just go to the meal.

If it's something that she will enjoy, then I think you have to show up, pretend to have a lovely time and not moan about it. It's only one day. If you think your DSis will hate it, then seems a bit odd if her friends have organised a day/evening like this...

You don't have to have a fabulous time at every event you go to - sometimes it's about someone else's enjoyment. A hen party is one of those times. And you never know, you might enjoy it if you see it as a one-off and just join in. I went to a karaoke bar hen night once that I was dreading, but as soon as they handed me the microphone and I got going I bloody loved it .

PS The 'naice' spa might have said no to a hen party or to a group of more than X number of people....

YANBU, that last part does sound shit. Courses for horses I know but I will never understand how people like that sort of thing.

I get it, bu its not like she gets married every day. Go and try to find some enjoyment for your sisters sake IMO.

Could you go the Cocktail making classes and meal and then make up an excuse about why you can't go the evening bit? The cocktail making class and meal would be ok wouldn't it?

That's what I've gone for Donder