Need a bit of hand holding!

[KellyElly]

Just dipped my toe into the muddy waters on online dating today. I really good looking, seemingly nice guy wanted to chat. All good so far.

He sort of made a few innuendos and after a bit I said that I wasn't looking for a hook up or anything casual and was he. This was after he asked me to ask him anything. He kind of attacked me and said I had looked into things and he was just being cheeky and he was completely put off me and was a bit rude. I now feel really humiliated and like I did something wrong but was just trying to be open and honest.

My previous relationship with DD's dad was all about him making me feel I was to blame for everything and assinating my character and now I just feel so shit and stupid. Should I just give up on relationships all together. Maybe I'm just not ready for this or maybe I just don't understand online dating ettiqute?? Advice please.

I think there is a thread in relationships that deals with the trials and tribulations of online dating.

It wasn't you, it was him - he probably reacted nastily because you had him sussed straight away. Only you know if you're ready but it sounds healthy that you know what you do and don't want. I think if you're looking for advice and hand holding you might be better off going to 'Relationships' dating thread. Good luck!

I have no idea about online dating etiquette but he was bloody rude.

Have you tried joining some groups to do with your interests instead of dating sites? That way you might find someone who you have something in common with to start off. Start from a point of friendship. A lot of people on dating sites are after a quickie.

He sounds a complete twat. Your question was very direct, but not rude or offensive and I think if you were getting that vibe, you were right to ask.

I fear if you are going to date online, you might have to get a bit used to this. However, I dont think you should give up.

You sussed him straight away, he was a twat. Not every man is like that, although there are a few who want a quick shag and dirty talk.

If you're ready to get back out on the dating scene, don't let one knob put you down!

Thanks for your replies and for directing me to the area on MN that may be good for this. I probably need to toughen up really. I tried it because my friend suggested it and I guess I shouldn't let one twat put me off! I know what I want now and being direct is probably the best option as I'm not looking for a shag and I've put up with too much in relationship and wouldn't accept it again. I was just trying to open myself up to the option of it and probably shouldn't be so sensitive. It's day 1. So onwards and upwards :)

The key to online dating is that you have to try (and its hard at times) to not take things personally. For every nice guy there are twenty arseholes. Seriously. Some people use online dating because they are too busy to meet others, or they are shy. Some people use it because they are so rude and obnoxious they dont stand a chance with anyone.

He was a twat. Ignore anything he said. You did absolutely the right thing by being upfront. Online dating is mostly weeding out the weirdos!

I love MN I was just feeling embarrassed, a bit humiliated and shit and now I feel empowered :)