Holiday vs saving for wedding.

[grumpyinthemorning]

I know I'm probably being unreasonable, but I'm so annoyed by this.

DP and I have set a tentative date for our wedding, near the end of the year. We have pretty substantial savings we're planning to use for the wedding, but DP insists we save up to add to it, which means we can't go on holiday this year.

This wouldn't be a problem, except I was really looking forward to going away. Spending a week with no DC, being able to do what I want when I want, just unwind...bliss. I haven't had a child free holiday since DS was born 3 years ago, so I do feel like I deserve one.

And before anyone says it, no, he is not controlling. He just seems to be under the impression that I haven't thought about how much the wedding will cost, or that I've forgotten things like the honeymoon, or table decorations. On the other hand, I'm willing to work with the money we already have.

Which one of us is being unreasonable?

Neither of you is being unreasonable, you just have different opinions.

But you don't 'deserve' a child-free holiday, you'd just like one.

Personally I'd forgo the holiday but do something cheaper as a family.

Why don't you do exhaustive costings for the wedding and see how your existing savings fair? That way you will know if you are right or not.

How much is this holiday likely to cost you btw? Could you not compromise by going on a cheaper break away?

Are you taking your child on honeymoon? I would havd thought that would count as a child-free holiday. Most people don't take their children.

Neither of you are being unreasonable. Why not work out all your costs now, and go on a cheaper break or compromise on the wedding?

Hmm not sure on the "deserve" either- but maybe I'm a terrible anxious mother can't imagine going away without DC's.

Compromise? Cheap week/end away

I'd have the holiday and get married in a lunch break at the registry office, but that's just me.

if money is an issue, is a gigantic party really the best thing?

Can you comprimise and have a weekend away together? Especially if you get some fabulous deal.

I'd want the holiday if it was an option, but I'd want a holiday with my three year old!

Yabu to think you deserve a child free holiday. Especially if you are thinking of having a child free honeymoon as well.

Why don't you get married on holiday?

massive holiday and tiny wedding I reckon

What a sad post. Most people take their DC on holiday with them.

Registry office wedding and nice holiday - WITH ds. Why do you feel you "deserve" a childfree holiday?

Your life will be childfree before you know it, and you'll probably be quite sad.

compromise, cheap holiday or mini break and economise on wedding

I haven't had a child free holiday since DS was born 3 years ago, so I do feel like I deserve one

This makes me a bit . Fair enough your honeymoon but I reckon most parents of young children take them on holiday with them - I work hard all year so look forward to quality family time all together on holiday. But hey, each to their own.

I, too, look forward to a family holiday. I feel I have my DCs "captive" for the one or two weeks and it's an opportunity to enjoy each other's company without the distraction of friends.