To want my ex partner back ?

[Bigbadticklemonster]

This is my first post so please go easy on me

Exp and i split last year he put his friends and the pub before myself and dd . He was out 5 times a week and he was a class A arse when drunk , Before then our relationship was near perfect both exp and myself were very upset when the relationship ended as a result . Now exp has stopped drinking and cleaned up his act ( My dream come true ) but the problem is hes in a new relationship . I realy want to give things another go as i love him and always will , I just dont know if i should act on my feelings It could risk our friendship and future relations with his new girlfriend who could one day become my dds stepmother
I know iabu to want to steal someones partner but it just dosn't feel like that .

How long has he cleaned up his act for? Sounds like he's on best behaviour for his new girlfriend before he unleashes his true colours.

You split for a reason and you are well shot of him.

I would be questioning whether this is him impressing her, as AKiss said. He is hardly going to tell her that you split because he was a selfish drunken arse is he?

Give it 12 months and he will back to his old ways, and you will be over him :)

Thanks for the replies I hope hes stopped drinking for good for dd especialy . He went to his gp and is getting the help he needs , I agree that this might just be an act to impress his new partner but i cant help but wonder what could have been if he got his shit in order before we split

When I kicked my exH out after he hit our son hard :( he was an alcoholic, abusive, violent, a nasty "mean drunk" and hadn't had a job, well ever - he got the sack from an apprenticeship age 17 and had never worked again and was about 28ish at the time.
Within a fortnight of moving back in with his mum he had a job, had lost weight, said he hadn't had a drink and certainly never turned up drunk, and seemed altogether like a changed man.
Within the year though he'd met and got engaged to someone else and asked me for a divorce, and I'd agreed (on my knees thanking all deities past, present and future because I thought I'd have a Battle Royal on my hands to get one) and was moving in with her, buying a house, had a mortgage, and generally all the shit he'd never bothered to do for me and our DSs, he did for her
About six months later he was unemployed, back at his mam's and the fiance had disowned him and taken out a restraining order.
Once an alcoholic, always a fucking useless bastard weak willed pathetic shit of an alcoholic :( :(
Be Careful OP PLEASE.

Pom just said it. You are better off moving on from him by the sound of it. I hope he will be good dad for your Dd though

Sorry for what your exh put you and your DSs through Pom . Ex has always been a good father to dd luckily she was always in bed when he came home from the pub , He was never abusive he was just an arse , He started drinking after a serious car crash so he wasnt always that way but i think you may all be right i should try to move on it is hard though .

It is hard. If you post in the relationships section you'll get a lot of support.

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