I have a friend who I've known for about 10 years. We used to live near each other and go out a couple of days a week, go off on weekend jollys. sometimes in a group, sometimes just the two of us. At the time we were both single footloose and fancy free It was lots of fun.
Fast forward a few years, and i've moved away, have a partner, a young child, a large mortgage and I work full time. I'm exhausted pretty much permanently. and skint.
Friend still lives in same place, still single and still goes off on jaunts whenever she likes to many of the places I used to go with her.
I can't swan off whenever I feel like it, and to be honest I want to spend as much time with my family (particularly DD) as possible during my miniscual amount of spare time.
My friend always seems so disappointed that we're not how we used to be and I find being around her hard work because of it. She's really not interested in what my life is now (though I know she wants to 'settle down' have kids etc).
I have other friends who are single and childless and I don't feel the same about them - the friendship counts regardless of where we are and what we're doing so I don't think it's totally me.
But, here is the AIBU bit. What is bugging me is when I do make plans with other friends, she always wants to come along and it winds me up. I don't see my friends that often and I don't always want a crowd around when you've got a lot of catching up to do.
Am I being a bitch? Should I make more of an effort? Have I just forgotten what it's like to be single. Ultimately am I a mum bore who has forgotten who I am?