To ask what you are actually meant to do with a 3 month old?

[SlightlyChilly]

At the risk of sounding like a useless mum, what are you actually meant to do to entertain a 3 month old. She hates going out in her buggy and screams the whole time, she will go out in a sling but usually just closes her eyes. She has no interest in toys yet, and will sit in her bouncer for a few minutes if im bouncing it, but not alone.

She spends pretty much the whole day being held/in her sling and half asleep, which doesn't bother me, but it just doesn't seem like she's getting much stimulation, though she never seems bored.

DS1 hated tummy time, and so does DS2 (now 3mo) so I don't force the issue. He has quite good head control anyway and is already trying to sit up.

I can't get him interested in the playmat, or the dangly things - he likes looking at me, the television, the computer screen, fairy lights, his brother playing, things that move by themselves - and he loves trying to "chat" to us by making noises that we make, or when we copy the noises that he makes back to him.

He likes going for walks in the pushchair, I can't sling or carry him because my back is shot and he's just too heavy; and he likes going in the car (but tends to fall asleep fairly quickly!)

I just love this stage - the connection and communication comes on in leaps and bounds, the smiles and the giggles - scrummy! [besotted at the moment]

yes I remember thinking I should be DOING something with my daughter at 3 months... doesn't every mum at that stage think 'what am I doing wrong!?'

but in retrospect, just get on with your day, dont feel guilty about taking them out and about they get plenty of stimulation that way, and you get a chance to have a tiny bit of 'me time'. Okay yes, just a tiny bit.

My daughter wouldn't go on the floor (playgym), baby bouncer, pram or anywhere except in the sling for the first 3 months - otherwise she just kept screaming. That was tiring. Looking back maybe it was reflux, but at about 4 months she seemed to change and was a lot happier doing more stuff and being put on the playmat for short periods, that made things feel a lot easier!

I know by the time I had my third DC I just used to carry her around a lot. I could cook and eat one handed. She grew out of it but she is still a cuddly 16 year old girl