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To think that no man should have to be told this stuff

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BertieBotts · 15/01/2013 09:49

Just came across this article, and yes, I know these "7 things that your grandmother's aunt should have known before flinging cow dung" articles are utter crap, but it enraged me Angry

www.cracked.com/blog/5-things-men-do-to-ruin-their-own-sex-lives/#ixzz2EPDmkpVF

Really? People need to be told this stuff?

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BertieBotts · 15/01/2013 09:51

Oh holy crap, trigger warning for the final point Shock Angry

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MolotovCocktail · 15/01/2013 09:52

If a guy needs to be told this stuff, his cock seriously needs to fall off. He should not be allowed to enter into to sexual relationships (or human contact, really) if this stuff isn't obvious!!

TomHardysPinky · 15/01/2013 09:54

ITS A JOKE,

Its cracked.come, hence the tag, Americas only HUMOR site.

TomHardysPinky · 15/01/2013 09:55

I'm not saying you should find it funny, but am just pointing out its not s erious article, its taking the piss.

WorraLiberty · 15/01/2013 09:57

I think the first comment on there was right...

"Most of these points could easily (and probably appropriately) generalized to encompass both genders, because my experience these relationship mishaps are committed fairly equally between the sexes."

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BertieBotts · 15/01/2013 09:59

No I really think it's serious and that's the horrible thing. It's humorously written, yes, but I think it really is trying to educate people and that's what I'm annoyed about - that it exists even in a semi-serious context.

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TomHardysPinky · 15/01/2013 10:02

Its a comedy site, its not serious.

I love cracked, I go on there most days, their photoplasty competitions are hilarious!

MarcelineTheVampireQueen · 15/01/2013 10:05

Cracked is a humourous website.
The fundamentals of the article are solid. And no, men shouldn't have to be told don't pressure for sex or expect porn star sex but then sometimes it needs saying.

MarcelineTheVampireQueen · 15/01/2013 10:07

Though the article does contain triggering words, I think it could be better. Just the audience of that site wouldn't read it.

MolotovCocktail · 15/01/2013 10:08

Oh, is it like 'The Daily Mash'?

Still, even if it is tongue-in-cheek, I have certainly met some blokes who this advice could apply to ...

shotofexpresso · 15/01/2013 10:15

I actually agree with the pornstar, yes its written in a humorous way but its a valid point , that some men may not know!.

Anniegetyourgun · 15/01/2013 10:17

Er, I hate to say this, but if you read the comments section you will realise that actually the things in the article DO want saying, and some people still won't take them on board. There's a particularly persistent guy saying that if women don't want a lot of sex they have something medically wrong with them, for example. My guess is that he has sees a lot of women with that problem...

LapsedPacifist · 15/01/2013 10:36

This is great! I'm going to forward it to DS (16). He's young and inexperienced enough to need some straight guy-talk instead of mum nag/lecture, and sophisticated enough to recognise humour when it kicks him in the nadgers Hmm.

shotofexpresso · 15/01/2013 10:48

Oh god don't forward that to your son, isn't it called how men ruin their sex life? cringe!!! Blush your poor son will die.

BarredfromhavingStella · 15/01/2013 10:51

Well the immature side of me found some of that quite amusing, sorry Grin

SomethingProfound · 15/01/2013 10:52

Unfortunately the reality is that some men do think that its ok to pressure women into sex, or expect some sort of porn star experience, and while I think we can all agree that this isn't acceptable it does happen.

IMO if there is a humours article that highlights that this behaviour isn't ok is that necessarily bad thing?

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BertieBotts · 15/01/2013 11:06

No that's true, Profound. Just sad that the need is there in the first place I guess.

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Crawling · 15/01/2013 11:11

Anniegetyourgun I saw the same person and lol at your comment about seeing alto of women who don't want sex.

Fandangos · 15/01/2013 11:29

Unfortunately, I think this kind of info does need to be given to men, by men. Because for some guys, their libido is like their kryptonite! Otherwise sensitive, decent guys can struggle to deal with lack of sex. Maybe reading something like this would hit home, more than a woman telling them.

standingintheriver · 15/01/2013 11:40

the comments are lovely,

Tom 8515

The first one is totally off. First of all, women are not supposed to be asexual creatures. Normal, healthy women are supposed to want sex and if they do not and they need to be "pressured", that's a problem with THEM, not the man. But actually denying your partner sex regardless is just making you a horrible lover and it is then YOU, the woman, as every relationship expert on planet Earth will tell you, who is ruining the relationship. Same if a man denies sex. If you abuse your partner's fidelity by making them starve, you are the one at fault. Also, since when is sex selfish? It's about expressing intimacy and if you don't want that then who is the one ruining the relationship?

Finally, this simple rule is constant: "Women, you can deny your lovers sex all you want, but don't be surprised when they get it elsewhere."

Read more: www.cracked.com/blog/5-things-men-do-to-ruin-their-own-sex-lives/#ixzz2I2kgVX6l

Cortana · 15/01/2013 12:58

Go out and do things with her as a couple. Not with the end goal of "If I do this, I can put my cock somewhere in or on her." If you're operating your relationship with that at the forefront of your mind, you're not ready for that relationship or the sex that comes with it.

I cannot see how this is ever a bad point to be made, whether made in humour or in all seriousness.

Also not being disgusting is a huge plus too.

YouWithTheFace · 15/01/2013 16:34

It was a funny-because-it's-true-and-what-kind-of-idiot-needs-telling-this-anyway kind of article until the comments. Then it got sad. Seriously? How many guys read that article and thought 'it's still women's fault for saying no, whatever my ass smells like, or however mean I've been all day'? Dear God.

Perfect article for a teenage boy, I would think. It might improve their sex quota dramatically for the rest of their lives!

StuntGirl · 15/01/2013 17:09

Cracked is a humour site. It's tongue-in-cheek. No man should have to be told these things. That was the point of his article.

ihearsounds · 15/01/2013 17:24

How can anyone be suprised that some blokes need to be told the plain truth? Everyday there are threads from desperate partners, on this site alone, whose blokes would benefit from reading it.

Some blokes don't shower as much as they should, or change their boxers daily. Some blokes do pressure partners into having sex, the old classic oh if you loved me for starters. They even fail to realise that it's their attitude.. Some blokes really do think we like the same stuff as them, and because they are turned on by something, we should also be. A friends ex wouldn't play with her boobs, ever, because he was turned off by having his played with. (Actually the whole thing could be written about him). Some think the pornstar is a realistic portrayal of a female.

I think sadly its a long time coming.

Fandangos · 16/01/2013 13:09

ihearsounds, I totally agree with you.

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