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To not understand why DH won't just come to bed?!

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Jojobump1986 · 14/01/2013 23:34

He regularly complains about being tired. He struggles to get up every morning at 6. I always thought it was me staying up late or his obsession with having the kitchen spotless every night that kept him from getting enough sleep but tonight he could've been in bed from 10.30 but instead he decided to go upstairs & watch tv. It's just so unlike him! Normally his life seems to revolve around sleep & he rarely shows any interest in the tv. Confused I'm almost beginning to wonder if we've had an argument & I've forgotten, but even then it'd be me sulking & him pestering me to make up, not the other way around! What's going on?! Have I fallen into some parallel universe where he's the couch potato in our relationship?! If he doesn't come to bed soon I might have to go check on him! I keep telling myself that he's an adult & can make his own decisions about his bedtime but... He hardly ever watches tv without me turning it on first... There's got to be something wrong! Confused

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OhTheConfusion · 14/01/2013 23:42

As someone who is currently on MN to stay awake as I am in the huff with DH and want him to be sound asleep before I go to bed I am perhaps not the best person to offer advice Wink

manicbmc · 14/01/2013 23:45

Has he maybe fallen asleep in front of the tv?

xlittlekellyx · 14/01/2013 23:49

Is he having a sleep? Or maybe a special massage? Lol

OkayHazel · 14/01/2013 23:58

Maybe he's just had a day from hell and can't stop thinking. Watching mindless TV before sleep, rather than getting in bed (despite tiredness) and having everything play over in his mind for hours.

No matter how tired I am, after a busy day I always do something to relax my brain.

Don't think the worst OP!

xlittlekellyx · 15/01/2013 00:06

Feel sorry for you ... Nothing worse than feeling rejected...hope you are ok x

TeaJunky · 15/01/2013 00:09

Op, go ask him!

Then come back and tell us what happened Grin

HoHoHoNoYouDont · 15/01/2013 00:47

Has he found Babestation? Or, maybe he's watching 'How it's Made', guaranteed to send anyone off to sleep.

Alisvolatpropiis · 15/01/2013 01:38

I've started going to bed hours laters than my DP. Don't really know why. Caught up watching random crap on the tv I suppose.

Your DH might be the same.

superfluouscurves · 15/01/2013 01:45

Has his work got a lot more pressured of late or dc got more demanding? He might just need some space alone.

I've just had an unusually long day at work and I'm wandering around trying to calm down before bed, enjoying having the house completely to myself.

Another possibility - on previous occasions when I've been extra tired - I've kind of got 'embedded' in the sofa ...Grin and stayed downstairs much longer than intended.

Finally, does he need a health check up? Does he seem much more physically tired than usual? Or does he have stress-related symptoms?

SnoogyWoo · 15/01/2013 08:04

Is he polishing his trumpet?

Jojobump1986 · 15/01/2013 10:04

He'd started watching something about how various machines work & lost track of time! As soon as I went in he looked at the clock & apologised & said he assumed I'd be asleep by now. He followed me back to bed & was asleep within minutes. I was awake for aaaages afterwards. So much for going to bed at 9! Sad

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