to not want to go on a 'man hunt'

[sausagesandwich34]

I rarely get a chance to go out

I'm single with 2 dcs but work full time & I either have my DCs or if they are at their dad's then I am working

both dcs have been invited to sleepovers at the weekend so this is the first time in a couple of years that I am able to go out and actually let my hair down

girls night out from work and they have all been talking about how they are going to find me a man

I'm not happy by myself but then I'm not unhappy either IYKWIM

ex was EA so I'm nervous about men in general but I don't tar them all with the same brush

I genuinely don't have time to invest in dating so I just wanted a meal out with the girls, few drinks etc but I now think the night is going to be strained

AIBU to not what to go on a manhunt as they are calling it and WWYD -I NEED an night out but I'm looking forward to it less and less

Just play along and rate the suggestions out of 10. Have a laugh. You don't have to find a man.

Just tell them you're really looking forward to a girls night out together and you know they're being well meaning but you're just not interested in 'manhunting'. Be clear about it and repeat it like a broken record if needs be.

WWID?

I'd tell them I don't need to 'hunt a man'.

Just go out and enjoy yourself...if they won't let you do that then find someone else to go out with.

just tell them you're out to have a fun night out with the girls, and a man isn't a requirement for a good night out! Although if a brad pitt lookalike wants to buy you a drink then fair enough :)

ew not brad pitt!

russell crowe is another story altogether....

told them I don't want a manhunt and they think it's hysterical :-(

Sometimes people think they're being well meaning and helpful when that couldn't be further from the truth.

Is there a ring leader in this? Or one you feel closest to? Could you have a word with her and get her to get the others to tone it down?

Can you not tell them you're very touched by their gesture but you're not ready to date again yet? Then that doesn't make them give up hope but also makes it clear you're not interested now?

problem with that bertie botts is that I have been single a looong time

they are all well meaning but then this is the first time I have been out with them as a group so not sure hw they dynamics work

Tell your friends that going on a bear hunt is much more fun!
Repeat when needed....

Joking aside I do think that society conditions us to feel that we 'need' someone (as in lover/partner) to be whole, when infact 'we' are whole already.

Ah I see - shame that people can't just leave you be though :( I agree people seem to think you're crazy if you're not constantly hunting for a man, they don't seem to get the concept that it can be ok to be alone!

Its hardly going to be a man hunt. They'll probably just point to attractive men, have a drink and chat some up at a bar. Play along, you might enjoy the conversation. Worst comes to worst and someone actually wants your phone number, don't give them it. Or give them a fakey. No harm done!

Believe it or not your friends really do think they're helping!

I hate it when people do that. It's usually my needy friends who suggest such things. Just because they can't do without a man they think everyone else should be coupled up too. I get comments like 'it's such a shame you're alone' and ' you should put yourself out there and you'll find a man'.

I love being single so fuck the fuck off