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to be drunk in charge of DC?

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Flojobunny · 14/01/2013 19:20

Maybe I should have put this in lone parent?
There was a time I wouldn't dream of this.
But if you have seen my other thread, maybe you'd understand.
AIBU to drink in sole charge of DD?

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KobayashiMaru · 14/01/2013 19:22

How drunk? Miserable and proper drunk is not a good idea in charge of a small child.

PickleSarnie · 14/01/2013 19:22

There's a difference surely to drinking whilst in charge of children and being drunk.

The former is perfectly reasonable IMO. The latter probably not.

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Flojobunny · 14/01/2013 19:24

It doesn't take much to get me drunk! And if its vodka or swinging from the ceiling then surely vodka wins right?

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Flojobunny · 14/01/2013 19:25

Sorry, very crap way of justifying my behaviour. The choice is struggle to cope with reality or drink into oblivion.

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WhatWouldGibbsDo · 14/01/2013 19:26

I read your thread from earlier in the day flojo, sorry you're going through such an awful time. Do you really think drinking right now is a good idea though? Is there anyone who you can call who can come round and keep you company/help you talk things through? x

LineRunner · 14/01/2013 19:26

Drunk and 'to drink' are very different.

Do you want to link to your other thread? Not sure I've seen it.

toomuch2young · 14/01/2013 19:27

Can you call anyone in RL?
It sounds you really need a break and some one to talk to?

iusedtobefun2 · 14/01/2013 19:27

yes to having a drink, no to getting drunk and ideally with enough money for a taxi should you need to get home or to a hospital in a hurry.

However, if you're having problems dealing with being a lone parent then I doubt very much if having a drink will help the situation. Dealing with 2 DC with a hangover is not fun. They get a grumpy shouty mummy with a hangover. Doesn't sound like much fun for them.

Since having DD I've pretty much stopped drinking. Didn't think it was fair on her. You just have to be a wee bit more inventive when it comes to having a good time.

iusedtobefun2 · 14/01/2013 19:30

Opps. Didn't see your second post. I do remember other posts of yours Flojo. Please call the Samaritans now. They will listen.

Did you go and see your GP?

RooneyMara · 14/01/2013 19:30

Reality I'm afraid Flo.

Drinking ain't going to help at all. I haven't seen your thread but I am on my own too.

Just don't do it pet

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Flojobunny · 14/01/2013 19:30

I have no idea how to link! Anyone feel free...
It's in chat "DS has left and gone to live with his dad" words to that effect.

I have DD 4 yo here. Unfortunately no support. Don't get me wrong my dad has been great today.

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RooneyMara · 14/01/2013 19:30

Talk to us instead?

WhatWouldGibbsDo · 14/01/2013 19:31

This is other thread; hope it's ok if I post link OP www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/1659135-so-DS-just-left-to-live-with-his-dad?pg=1

RooneyMara · 14/01/2013 19:31

ah that sounds truly crap Sad

I am so sorry, it's something I dread happening ever

you poor old love x

bedmonster · 14/01/2013 19:32

Dp and I have a few drinks over the weekend. Not getting bladdered but definitely wouldn't be able to drive in an emergency. As our dc are youngish, they are usually at home with us and I don't know if we will think differently when they are older and out and about more. But also, they have never needed any emergency dashes to a&e in the middle of the night and have always been in good health so no reason to think we would need to go out.
If one of us goes out, the one at home will still have a few drinks.
We are fairly liberal I suppose. Others wouldn't but we assess our own situations and we have decided we are fairly low risk. Of course they may well be that one time we need to drive, but we have lots of family nearby that would help if need be.
Although I haven't read your other thread so I may not have got the gist of what you were trying to say.

ClippedPhoenix · 14/01/2013 19:34

having a few to take the edge off now and again is very allowed in my book but you sound very down Flojo. I have a few wines under stress, yes of course i do but bottles isn't a good idea.

bedmonster · 14/01/2013 19:35

Sorry, totally xposted and what ive said probably isn't appropriate or relevant to you.
Sorry things are hard for you right now OP.

AlienReflux · 14/01/2013 19:36

it's a worry when you say drink to oblivion yes. what if your daughter needed you? Don't get me wrong,I sympathise, but if your drinking is that bad, you're putting her, and custody if her in danger.

Jomato · 14/01/2013 19:44

If your dad has been great today I'm sure he would be now I you called him and told him how bad you are feeling. It sounds like having a drink would turn to being drunk quite quickly and that is just going to make you feel worse. I think ringing the Samaritans would be a good option if you really feel you can't ask for more help from family.

BumpingFuglies · 14/01/2013 19:46

Ah, Flo you've had a hell of a time. Have a couple but if you think you won't be able to stop, don't start. The others are right about Samaritans - it can really help x

PureQuintessence · 14/01/2013 19:49

Flo, I am concerned for you. The clinic you mention on the other thread, is most commonly known for addiction rehab... I have a friend who used to work there, she is a psychiatrist, mainly involved with getting alcoholics dried up.

Alcohol is a depressant as you know, and drinking a lot is not going to do you much good in terms of your feeling of coping. I know today is a shit day for you, but getting drunk in sole charge of your dd is not the answer.

BeerTricksPotter · 14/01/2013 19:53

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McNewPants2013 · 14/01/2013 19:55

I don't think vodka is the key here. I think you may benefit from a nice long soak in the bath and to sit with a nice cup of tea.

In the short term, i think it will be the best for your son to live with his father until you can get some proper help and support.

McNewPants2013 · 14/01/2013 19:57

just to add, don't be so hard on yourself xxxxxx

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Flojobunny · 14/01/2013 21:08

Pure I have no alcohol issues. I can count on one hand the number of times I had one drink in 2012. But I need to get through the night. I'm borderline now but feel like its not enough. I don't think all the vodka in the world will be enough.

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