DH and his older brother have always been very close. Both were really into clubbing etc when they were younger and we're both big party animals/drinkers.
Since DH and I met, he has mostly really calmed down and we've settled nicely into domestic life. He still goes out from time to time but tends not to get drunk out of his mind.
BiL has struggled to get his head round this as even though he too is married he still acts like he's single as far as I can tell - partying, drink, drugs on a regular basis. We get on OK but I've picked up on a bit if jealousy. I try to ignore it and I try to always be friendly.
We have just found out I'm expecting a baby and BiL is now constantly nagging DH to go out on big drinking nights out. It's like his last-ditch attempt to wrestle DH back off me (in his eyes). This has included trying to arrange a "boys weekend away" when we really ought to be saving for baby things, and also we're in the process of trying to buy a house and are scraping together a decent deposit, moving costs etc.
I guess it's not really the money. Its BiL's lack of respect for our relationship. DH doesn't like to say no to him because he feels guilty I think. It doesn't help that BiL and his wife are unable to have children, which I feel genuinely very sad for them about. But I'm pg, feeling a bit overwhelmed by it all and need a little extra support and I want BiL to back off. AIBU??