to think nursery should send child home!

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a mum from DS's nursery wrote on twitter last night that her DD was being sick and had a high temperature. She is a 'sickly' child, and catches everything. Yet when I dropped DS off, there she was! I said to the teacher, wow is that girl in?!?! Her mum said she was being sick last night! Teacher was obviously angry and said the mum only wrote that the DD had a high temp.

I am so sick of DS getting ill because people think nursery's and schools should look after ill kids. It's hard to get time off when you have a sickly child, who is ill a lot. But that doesn't mean its fair to send your child in, infect lots of other children, so others end up taking time off too!

Was I being unfair telling the teacher? I'm just fuming she thinks its okay to send the daughter in. It's not the first time either!!!

YANBU, i am a childminder and it happens to me a lot. i get the kids then they say "i was sick last night".....really?? i have a toddler and he was really ill last time a parent did this to me. he was sick for a week and then had a secondary bacterial infection (tonsilitis) straight after, so he barely ate for 2-3 weeks! also its a loss of earnings for me :(

Yes that is true New Pants! Totally agree with you on that one, but this is only nursery though! So I doubt the one year old will worry :) And for £50 a day, I think the nursery should be giving out certificates for everything they bloody do!!!

Poor you milf :( I would ring their mums straight away if that was me!! My mum is too, she had a girl with diohreaha, the mum took 2 hours to pick her up (my mum ahd to clean up after her) and she was back on the doorstep the next day! It's not fair on the child or the nursery staff either!!!

Well it would be great if everyone followed guidelines, wouldn´t it?

If the girl in the OP "catches everything"-where is she getting it from??

I'm not sure if catching lots of 'sick bugs' does give you future protection from sick bugs.

It might have the opposite effect - disturbing the healthy balance of bacteria in the gut. 'Good' gut bacteria protect from bugs but they get flushed out along with the bad during tummy upsets. I think....

Does anyone know about this properly?

you have immunity from norovirus for 4 months after getting it. That'sit as far as I know. I agree choco.

I agree with you completely but your thread title seems to blame the nursery. A better thread would be Aibu to think parents should keep their kids off if they've been sick.

The nursery can do very little on your word alone.

And 'normal' bugs can have disastrous consequences. Imagine how guilty you'd feel if you'd sent your infectious DC out and someone who'd been in contact with them became very ill as a result of getting the same infection..

I always thought the 48 hour thing was more about the work it would cause the staff rather than infection. A child throwing up would take away a full member of staff leaving the ratios messed up. Similarly at school, a teacher can't spend all day looking after one child at the expense of the others.

I've been distracted all day, since I had those two weeks off with norovirus i'm so paranoid since it's was awful. Worst two weeks of my life, actuallly thought I was going to die! It's making me so anxious thinking he's cooped up in there. it's so irritating knowing full well she could of avoided it!

I didn't mean to sound like I was blaming the nursery letseatgrandma. I just wish they could of sent him home!!

It's more now the fact she text back thinking she was in the right, having a go at me!

Child shouldn't be there now with high temp. But high temps can come & go quickly so quite possible no high temp today.

Child may have only vomitted last night because of high temp then; if that were definitely the case I wouldn't object to them being with my nursery today. (High temps make me vomit, btw, I know more about Rigors than anyone should).

I think problem is the parent can't tell definitely why the child was vomiting, what the full nature of the bug is.

Good to know about the 4 months kingthistle. That would explain why my DC didn't catch it again.

It is very stressful when ds catches one thing after another. Dh & I have to take it in turns to take a day off with both of our companies having been ok so far but it's not great when you have no local support.
I have sent him,not with temp or sickness but when he has a cold & crossed my fingers all day. To send a really unwell child is irresponsible IMO. She's a bit dim to announce it on Fb,perhaps her aggressive text is because she knows she's been caught out. Suprised the nursery allowed her to attend with a temperature.
milf why are you losing money? Thought it was standard to pay whether they were there or not?

I know an acquaintance who doesn't believe that her children will infect others despite how closely the children play with each other. For her youngests birthday party, she invited newborns, babies of similar ages and of siblings ages to celebrate then mentioned right at the end that the birthday boy had been suffering the day before with serious D&V. Everyone bar one mum from that party came down with it, including the newborn. Bloody selfish. Even wanted to bring her children to an NCT group for newborn to 18months plus pregnant ladies despite the fact the child had been diagnosed with slapped cheek.

YWNBU in telling the nursery. They can check twitter themselves from the office so it's not like she hasn't announced it. She may say MYOB but essentially if your child gets ill and you have to take time off work, it is your business. And FYI, the nursery can send him home if they get access to her twitter as its standard 48hours usually or if the child shows other symptoms. If a child falls ill whilst at nursery, it's one thing but to deliberately send a sick, only wanting mummy child isn't fair on the child, nursery staff or other parents.

Forgot to say, a child with the sniffles, cough or colds is one thing. Ive done that - but not if they've been vomiting, had dysentery or as one parent try to do at my nursery, sent them in with full blown chicken pox...

One year olds can be sick and have high temps quite often and they are not necessarily ill or contagious. My DD's nursery have a policy that they can be sick once but are sent home if they are sick again. That's in the baby room, not sure if it's the same when they are older. I've sent her in after she's been sick once the evening before as she's shown no other signs of illness and was absolutely fine the next morning. I told the nursery this and they had no problem. I don't really think you can apply the 48hr rule to babies.

As a nursery manager don't get me started on this topic! It drives us all mad. I have 2 children at the nursery too, so understand the frustration of having to keep them off, but that's life.

What happens if all the staff get it?

Best excuse so far I have heard...........no they are not chicken pox spots the doctor said they were spider bites! Sent child home anyway, low and behold 2 weeks later the rest of the nursery had spider bites! Whilst I appreciate the spots can appear very quickly and that you are infectious before they come out, I do wonder if the parent thought I was born yesterday!