Need opinions.

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Xmas 2011 i bought laptops for my 3 dc. Throughout last year my ex has changed those laptops for slightly better ones he got free from work. My permission was never sought. First two changes he kept the ones i bought. Last change he told my DD to keep her other one, he didn't want it. I then planned to give her old one to Dss for. Xmas 2012.
Two weeks before xmas DD decided she preferred her old one so swapped them back. DSS got the spare one for xmas.

The ex said yesterday he was annoyed as he felt he should have been offered it back. He could have sold it

So was i unreasonable?

Tell him that after his decision not to consult you on the laptops, you didn't think you had to consult him. You thought that if consultation was important to him then he would have shown you the same courtesy. As he didn't, he led you to believe that it wasn't that important to him.

So you bought laptops and the ex has replaced them but kept the old ones?

I'd be asking for the old ones back. They weren't his to keep and then give him back the spare that he bought.

Yes, i never got the old ones back, i know he has sold them.

Let me get this straight.

You paid a lot of money for laptops for your children.

Your ex got laptops for free and kept the laptops you paid for, and then sold them and kept the money.

That is total and utter bullshit. You definitely do not need to give him back the third laptop. Fuck that.

I'm also wondering where he works that he gets given free laptops that he's allowed to sell on, because that sounds pretty dodgy.

I think because they are lowish spec no longer suitable for business user his boss lets them have them.
I'm glad no one feels i was wrong, i have been considering offering him some money, but won't.

I suspect he may take it off my maintenance this month anyway!!

If he takes anything off your maintenance then tell him you're going to start going through the CSA and see how he likes that idea.

The cheek of him!

Dont think you were unreasonable. He is slightly better off as a result of selling something that you bought.
I wouldn't get into an argument as he seems somewhat unreasonable.
But if he attempted to try to reduce maintenance, ask for the proceeds from the 2 he has sold and give him the 3rd one that he got (after you have the £ in hand doubt that will happen ).

He is unreasonable, always has been.
I'm not going to discuss it with him again, he said his piece, i told him that DSS was meant to be getting the other one. He mentioned he could have made money by selling. I said nothing.

I think i just wanted to make sure i wasn't being unfair.

Honestly i think this is cos it went to DSS if i had kept it for me i doubt it would be an issue. I got engaged at christmas and my sister thinks that is what has prompted this