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AIBU To feel put to shame my friends husband

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DizzyZebra · 14/01/2013 06:59

My friends husband is more than twice my age (He is mid 50s)
Every morning he gets up before his wife and the 3 children and goes for a run - Minimum 5 miles. Usually around 7 or 8.

He is currently back home having completed his run, having a cuppa before the school run. On a weekend he does his wife breakfast in bed, without fail.

I am sat on my sofa, struggling to muster up the energy to tidy my living room.

I am amazed by this man!

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LAlady · 14/01/2013 08:10

I get to the gym for 6 30 am in school holidays (I'm 42) so I am done before my DH and children wake up. Gives me more energy for the day - have been known to go to a theme park after that. Good on him. Lots of people do similar.

MrsHoarder · 14/01/2013 08:11

Smudging you need couch to 5k. Basically don't just go out if the house and run when you haven't run for years unless you're seriously hardcore. walk then run and slowly drop the walking.

phlebas · 14/01/2013 08:36

my dad's like this, he's 58 & I don't think he's ever slept later than 5:30 am in his life ... runs most days, half marathons are fun runs for him Actually my mum is too - she's 60 - far fitter & more energetic than most people in their 30s & doesn't look much older either; definitely not haggard.

carabos · 14/01/2013 09:22

I'm 49, DH is 50. He is a sports professional and doing physical things all day. We both do 2 or 3 spin classes a week and I walk a 7 mile round trip at least once a week to a meeting in the next village.

We do activity holidays - skiing in winter and mountain walking in summer. We would hate a more sedentary lifestyle tbh.

NewYearNewNagoo · 14/01/2013 09:25

ha ha don't be envious, be inspired!

WorraLiberty · 14/01/2013 09:34

Runners and joggers always look so 'together' and in a perfect rhythm, but when I run I always look like I'm being chased by a wasp...DH and the kids think it's hilarious

In fact the last time we all ran for a bus, they got on and pretended they didn't know me cos the driver was smirking.

Have you ever seen a Great Dane running across a field with its uncoordinated legs flailing everywhere?

Well that's exactly what I look like

Timetoask · 14/01/2013 09:46

Dh is 50, wakes up at 5:30, goes on his turbo bike for one hour before starting his day. Much more energy than I will ever have! I am 10yrs younger

tallwivglasses · 14/01/2013 22:51

God, this thread has exhausted me.

fannybanjo · 15/01/2013 08:56

It's called "dedicated". As for running making you haggard, well, I run between 40 and 60 miles a week, am currently training for my third marathon, I have never been told I look haggard. Super fit - yes. Haggard - no. The people I see who look haggard are the ones who stuff their faces all day whilst watching daytime TV and are allergic to moving from their couch.

backwardpossom · 15/01/2013 09:27

Running makes you look haggard? What a load of bollocks.

Booyhoo · 15/01/2013 09:35

my exp used to be seen leaving the house for a run in the mornings looking all athletic and committed. neighbours probably thought he was great. he did fuck all in the house and his 'me time' spent running happened to coincide with the mad morning rush where i would be tearing my hair out trying to find socks and homework books etc. i'd get back from taking ds1 to school and he'd jog back in feeling great about what an ace run he'd just had. yeah mate. hold your son while i grab 30 seconds for a shower before he wants another breastfeed

BettySuarez · 15/01/2013 09:41

DH has been known to get up, get kids off to school, go for a run, come home and shower, make me breakfast in bed AND treat me to a lot little morning sex

BettySuarez · 15/01/2013 09:43

PMSL at being 'chased by a wasp'

fannybanjo · 15/01/2013 09:53

Booyhoo - did you get rid of ex cos he looked haggard...I

NumericalMum · 15/01/2013 09:58

Seconding (third or fourthing even) the haggard thing is rubbish! I have some amazingly fit friends and they don't look haggard at all. I run a lot too. I would love to do more and intend to start as soon as I can again. I am far from haggard. I use it to enable me to eat what I like (ish!) and am always a little far from my ideal weight!!

NumericalMum · 15/01/2013 10:00

Although as someone with a super fit husband I did have to spend a lot of time ensuring his fit time was not in family time and that if he did go out for 3 hour cycles they were finished by a sensible time so we could do things together. I do things before work so I don't impact on time together or time with my DC.

WaitingForMe · 15/01/2013 10:04

I walk everywhere. A five mile round trip (DS in pram) to exchange a babygro is normal for me. I get a buzz from the fresh air and endorphins. DH never gets that buzz, it is always an effort for him.

Most of the runners I know get an endorphin high so they find it easy to motivate themselves. Just as I find it easy not taking the car and walking.

rhetorician · 15/01/2013 14:57

didn't the 'haggard' thing come from the Daily Mail? I am nearer 50 than 40, run 35-40 miles a week and (I think) look better than a lot of women 10 years younger (well apart from the fact that all my clothes look like are running clothes). Also, there's nothing amazing about it - anyone can do it. All you have to do is put one foot in front of the other and not stop (walk if you want, but don't stop). I met a 68 year old who took up running after he retired the other day.

If you don't like running, do something else!!

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