to tell DS2 yes he will let his brother have a go on his xbox?

[BrandonFlowersHoHoHo]

DS2 is 14, he has an x box yawn His brother (10) isn't really into consoles, he would much rather be outside kicking a ball but due to the weather he's stuck indoors today.

DS2 asked his brother for a go on the xbox and DS1 said no!

I was sitting in the room with them. I asked DS1 why he wouldn't let him and he said "because its mine" He wasn't playing on it so I said. "Go on, just leave him have a go" He kept saying no so I said "well if you're not prepared to share then its coming out of your room" he said ok then straight away.

I mean technically its mine, I bought it! (Yes I know, it was a gift)

AIBU to allow DS2 on it! I probably am, but DS2 was nagging me because he was bored and I wanted a bit of peace and quiet.

of course he should share - especially if he's not using it

If I were you, DS2 would have lost the xbox for a month for not sharing and his brother would be able to borrow it occasionally

I think if older brother wasn´t using it then it´s OK.

But if it´s in the oldest´s room-he´s not going to want his brother in & out to keep using it.

YANBU
DD2 may be the house SIMs addict, but is no earthly reason why DD1 can't have a go (on a separate user) when she's out or doing something else.

Also sharing isn't all bad, DD1 is quite willing to pay a share of expansion packs in return.

They share a room anyway so that's not an issue really (much to their disgust) Got my ds's mixed up at start, should read DS1 is 14, he's the one with the xbox.

They share a room anyway so that's not an issue really (much to their disgust) Got my ds's mixed up at start, should read DS1 is 14, he's the one with the xbox.

If its in his room then YABU

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Yanbu, of course he should share it when he's not using it. A 10 year old is not going to damage it any way.

If it was me, I would have given them the XBox as a joint present or for family use. Then there's no issue. My sons are quite happy to share most things, but some things are more precious to them than others and that's understandable. I wouldn't lend my diamond ring to anyone else. I wouldn't expect DS1 to share his Nintendo DS with DS2. And I don't expect DS2 to share his favourite dinosaur with DS1. If it's their own personal property, it's down to them to decide if they want to share it.

While you can look reproachful and encourage them to share, I don't think it's right to force the issue. Leave it to their conscience after that. And next time they want to use something that isn't theirs, say "Hmmm... no, I don't think so - you wouldn't share with DS2, so I don't see why he should share with you now."

I'm a bit shocked at the, "Technically it's mine, I bought it" line - WTF?!

He let him on it for about 20 minutes then I heard arguing coming from the room because DS1 wanted on it. Give me strength.

The technically its mine, I bought it line was tongue in cheek. :) But its true! Was only because he said 'its mine' that i rolled that one out haha.

It was a birthday gift to DS1 so a joint present wouldn't really have worked. I had suggested it as a joint Christmas gift but as I said DS2 isn't really into consoles, I think today because he was a bit bored and wanted to play. Once in a blue moon he asks to go on it really.

As long as they take care of things I would encourage them to share with each other. Spiteful, possesive behaviour was not encouraged when we were younger and I wouldn't encourage it in anyone else.

I agree StuntGirl If he was playing on it at the time I would have said to maybe let him have a little go when he had finished the game. The fact he wasn't even on it annoyed me.

Yanbu. In our house xbox, nintendo ds, the nexus tablet etc are all jointly owned and therefore shared.

Coukd it be an age this with ds1? My ds1 is 13 and also shares a room with his 10yr old brother but ds1 can be very possessive over things ie an amaze ball toy he got for xmas. Ds2 wanted to have a look and even tho ds1 wadnt playing with it and was happy to let me or dp have a go he wouldnt let ds2. Ds2 on the otherhand will share anything, even brand new bday presents and ds1 is quite happy to use ds2's stuff but wont share his stuff!" drives me mental!

yeah it could be an age thing, they usually are fine sharing their things. I think its just the mood DS1 is in today. Usually if one of them refuse to share anything i tell them to not expect to play on anyone elses things. Usually works.

Oh my lord, my DSs are the same age and joint own the Xbox and I swear I could throw it out of the window some days with the arguments about bloody sharing and taking turns. Now I've taten to saying, you have two minutes to work it out between you, or you will lose it for a week.

Yes of course he should share.

Things like that are for the whole family IMO.

I can remember my youngest brother getting so cross with me because I kept beating him at one game that he started whacking me with the controller. They are not exactly a means of keeping the peace!

I did tell DS1 that i'm going to put it in the living room and buy the Kinect thingy so we can all play it. The biggest arguement about it is the fact all DS1 friends play COD and Far Cry something or other and talk to each other through a headset and its so unfair because I won't allow it. Whole other thread I'm guessing.

The main thing they argue about now is DS2 taking pictures of DS1 on his tablet and using one of those apps to contort his face. DS1 does not appreciate that one bit. Sometimes i feel like taking all the gadgets away and burying them keeping them for myself

My friend does that, Brandon. She finds any excuse to confiscate DD's Nintendo DS, so that she can sit and play with it instead!

Actually given that they do share a room I can see his point abut feeling a little possessive over his things. Perhaps he doesn't feel he has anything that's really 'his'. That said I would still encourage sharing, not doing so, especially when not using it himself, is simply being mean.

I feel your pain. DSs are 11 and 13, DS1 has just asked to go on DS2's laptop, and he said 'no'. Even though DS2 is playing with his Spongebob Lego. When DS1 asked why he said 'because I don't want you on it'.

At that point I mentioned Homework.

I think sometimes its just because they want to say no. DS1 hates sharing a room and I think sees DS2 as the annoying little brother and he just wants some time alone. I can see his point. I didn't have to share a room when I was young, i imagine its a pain in the arse sometimes. Ah well they have bunkbeds coming tomorrow, already fighting about who gets the top bunk. Think I'll run away for a week.

sparklingbrook funny how a distraction like homework shuts them up

Well DS2 has let DS1 go on his laptop now as long as he doesn't go on the precious Minecraft file.

No homework has been done as yet.

Oh Minecraft, know it well. Now i have DD pestering them to play on their tablets because she wants to play Subway Surfers. According to DD 'sharing is caring'.