to ask if MN has ever changed your views?

[MissScarletintheLibrary]

I've been a lurker for a few months now and well even if I was a newbie you would soon see that people have very strong views on mumsnet.

Should as children giving up seats for adults.
People deleting you as a friend on Facebook.
Wearing make-up.

Not being specific these are just recent ones that I've witnessed.

However has reading others peoples views on here on any particular topic actually made you change your views or made you think differently?

MN has not necessarily changed my views on issues I feel strongly about.

Like others though, I am more aware of issues and it has helped me put my life experiences into perspective.

Yeah it's made me realise that I was raped and abused by a previous partner. It's also opened my eyes about average incomes.

It has given me a more broad view more than changed my views.

I agree with Foggles.

I haven't changed my views, but I've probably become a bit more paranoid. I now know that no matter what parenting choice you make, someone will judge you for it.

One thing MN has given me is an insight into the reality of life with disabilities and SN and DC with disabilities and SN. This is something RL hasn't exposed me to, to any great extent. I don't know if this has made me a better person, but definitely a sadder one.

What trills said...

MN hasn't changed my views but had made me more thoughtful, especially about SN DC's and disabled people. (I did think I was thoughtful before )

I'd never go out in a 'mum-boot' now. Thanks S&B.

No.Because I'm always right

I have learned things though.

I rarely empathise - but I do make people analyse their own feelings - but that comes from work courses in not providing answers to problems and making people work out their own solutions.

I know this is a predominantly female forum, but it never ceases to amaze me just how many (and I choose my words carefully) women out there are incapable of making a decision about the smallest decision and seem to need validation that they are acting correctly. Something has gone very wrong with society if that is indeed the case.

To clarify - in terms of how it has changed my views. Beforehand I would use disabled loos and think I had just as much right to have my buggy in the wheelchair bay on the bus. Now I know different. So it's changed not so much my views as my behaviour.

It's changed my views on what's acceptable and normal and that I can reasonably expect in a relationship massively - I'd go so far as to say it utterly changed my life in that respect.

Like others, it's not changed my views so much as given me insight into areas of other people's lives I'd never had before (eg home schooling, living with a child with severe SN, relationship issues)

I am less judgemental and question my judgements more. What are people saying about chicken pox, I haven't come across this?

I'd agree with others who have said that it has given them a better understanding of SN. It hasn't changed my views because I never had bad ones to start with,but I do understand more now. Because some lovely posters have shared their lives and experiences. A couple seem not to be posting so much anymore,hope they are still around.

I used to be quite liberal, now I'm as racist as fuck.

It has definitely made me more understanding and less judgemental in RL. For instance if I saw a child behaving what I thought was terribly for their age and a parent ignoring it my 1st thought now would be that there may be a special need of some sort rather than how I would previously think - the parent can't be bothered. Even if there was now SN then at least I wouldn't automatically judge.

On here I can be fairly argumentive (without realising it at times and I am mortified to have upset someone on here recently and I don't even remember saying what she said I had said). I am definitely not like that in RL at all and even less so since being on MN.

Haha lovely. Me too, I especially can't stand those Swiss.

Yep, loads

I am now less judgemental.

But I also fear being judged when I use disabled toilets (I am disabled - arthritis, and struggle without the bar to help me up - but you wouldn't necessarily know it to look at me unless you noticed my knarled hands. Am quite young too so I worry what people think after reading some threads on here...)

I have got some great ideas about better ways of parenting in certain situations.

I also had a bad haircut through MN!

Yes - about skinny jeans and shopping in Hobbs.

No.Because I'm always right

Stone.Cold.Classic.

1. Everyone is human.
2. Everyone is different.
3. Emoticons and text emphasis don't mix.

Yes, educated me about SNs and living with disabilities.

It has made me realised just how stressful it is living in places where there are complex application processes for schools. It has taught me that bad behaviour from my siblings is not OK and that cutting them off is OK. I have also learned that I can't change anyone's behaviour except my own and made me more understanding and less judgemental.

i would say the most massive thing mumset has made me aware of is the immorality and abuse that is the porn industry.