to be getting sick of my friend and her snap judgments?

[BlossomontheTrees]

We are a friendship group of five and whilst I love them all, the snap judgments of one of my friends is really starting to grate on me now.

For example, she spent a large part of one night out complaining about a new girl at her work and that she was stuck up and how she had made a comment to my friend. Then a week later this new girl is suddenly the nicest and loveliest person ever.

I joined the gym and was told by her that it was the most boring thing she could ever imagine doing and that she couldn't think of doing anything worse. She then joins the gym and suddenly loves going.

I know we are all guilty of making these kind of judgments, but she's very forceful about her views and lets them be known, and it's really stating to grate on me now.

Can't you just say something?

Next time she has a massive enemy just laugh and say yeah she'll be your best friend next week!

Then you won't be so seethy.

I can't say this would bother me too much. We all have opinions that we change our minds on, she is just a bit more vocal about them.

Just point out to her that people can come across differently to how they are and she shouldn't judge them based on a brief comment they made once and she can't say something is boring unless she has tried it. Say something each time and she may get the message. It does sound tedious and I can do this but I don't voice it and I do have that inner voice that tells me I don't know someone, therefore I can't judge them.

When I was at work, some of the women I became friends with told me they thought I looked like a right bitch when they first met me! Because of my face it must of been, they hadn't actually spoken to me, when they did, we were actually friends. Now I worry that I have that affect on people, although all my current friends refute this and said they never thought that at all about me. Just my pleasant (now ex) friends.

" she's very forceful about her views and lets them be known"
Fair enough. But you can surely be equally forceful about how you expect her to U-turn on her current view? "Just like you did about going to a gym or your new colleague X.", said with a roll of the eyes. Friends point these things out to each other surely?