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to call the police?

34 replies

rubydoobydoo · 12/01/2013 22:46

I think I've posted before about our problem neighbour.
To summarise - we live in a terraced house. Since the summer (apart from a couple of months when he was in prison) every weekend taxi-loads of drunk people turn up at his house and party into the early hours, keeping us awake all night. Recently it seemed to escalate and happened on week nights too - we've called the police a few times in the early hours, one time resulting in neighbour banging on our door threating to shoot us if we called the police again (which of course resulted in us calling the police again!)

DP has had to take days off work as he was too tired to drive on the motorway to get there, let alone function in his job.
He's even booked a B&B for a few nights just to make sure he gets some sleep during a particularly busy patch at work.

Since the last incident - we've spoken to our neighbour. He was very apologetic - he's got a few problems at the moment, his mum doesn't have long left to live and he's broken up with his ex (and mother of his children) and he knows this isn't an excuse for his behaviour. He also has to move by the end of this month as his landlord is moving back into the house with his family.

I DO feel a bit sorry for him, he seems like quite a nice bloke - but is very damaged, and very easily led by the people surrounding him (the taxi-loads of "mates" who turn up all the time! He's admitted he doesn't even invite them, they just seem to get wind of where the party is and he ALWAYS lets them in)

He's actually been quiet during the week since we spoke to him. However a load of them turned up last night - well, more like the early hours of this morning. It woke us up - and we had a bit of a crap day off as we spent most of it catching up on sleep from the night before. It went on all night, into the morning and has carried on all of today and is still going on now.

We know (as previously suspected) that cocaine is involved which explains the fact they never seem to sleep.

We also know that neighbour himself is out on licence until February and is on his final warning before he gets sent back to prison.

DP wants to call the police if it carries on past midnight. I'm not so sure - he's been quiet in the week, and at the very worst we only have until the end of the month having crap weekends (we're moving too - it just looks like he has to go before us).

We don't have children - I think I'd have a very different stance then! What do you lot think?

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VivaLeBeaver · 12/01/2013 22:47

I would, and also the council if they have an e,regency noise line.

DamnBamboo · 12/01/2013 22:48

He'll go back to prison if you phone the police... is that what you're saying?

ilovesooty · 12/01/2013 22:49

Did he tell you about when his licence finishes and about the warning he received?

HokeyCokeyPigInAPokey · 12/01/2013 22:50

It's not your problem if he's out on license.

If it's continuing i would.

MadameCastafiore · 12/01/2013 22:51

I'd not hesitate to ring the police on some low life who threatened to shoot me no matter how hard his life is even if it meant him going back to the clink!

DamnBamboo · 12/01/2013 22:52

He's actually been quiet during the week since we spoke to him. However a load of them turned up last night - well, more like the early hours of this morning. It woke us up - and we had a bit of a crap day off as we spent most of it catching up on sleep from the night before. It went on all night, into the morning and has carried on all of today and is still going on now

Just read this bit, somehow missed it before. This is totally unreasonable behaviour. Phone the police.

ThinkAboutItOnBoxingDay · 12/01/2013 22:54

I take it you have been round and told him how much last night affected you and asked him to be quiet today?

I think you do that before the police.

If you have tried and he is ignoring you, then yes,call the police. The threat of prison makes it harsh for him but they are his extenuating circumstances, not yours.

Good luck, it sounds shit, i feel for you

deleted203 · 12/01/2013 22:55

I would. And if he's such a nice bloke he wouldn't have banged on your door and threatened to shoot you! Seriously - whatever his problems he needs to stop inflicting them on all of his neighbours. It's time for him to grow up and take responsibility for his actions. If he doesn't want to find himself back in prison because he's on his final warning then he should have abided by the warnings/restrictions on him and not had yet another drunken, cocaine fueled night. It went on all night, all today and is still going? Then he's pushed your tolerance far enough. He made the choices for his actions and behaviour and he will need to accept the consequences. It's not your fault.

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rubydoobydoo · 12/01/2013 22:55

He MAY go back to prison if we call the police. He's already had a warning from the local police station. Yes he did tell us about his licence and the warning.

We're already in touch with environmental health - the police can't actually do much but each incident goes down as "antisocial behaviour" and we have a crime number. We've sent off one diary to the noise pollution team already. They were meant to send a warning letter then but it never happened (the police chased this up for us and made sure they DID get the letter!)

We don't have an emergency noise line here unfortuanately - just the non-emergency police number!

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MumVsKids · 12/01/2013 22:56

I'd be calling the police too, how do you know he's actually moving at the end of the month? Have you spoken to the landlord yourself?

VivaLeBeaver · 12/01/2013 23:00

I wouldn't be going round to speak to him first. He's maybe off his head on cocaine, has threatened to shoot the op in the past, is a general bad egg by the sound of it. No way would I be talking to him.

FairyJen · 12/01/2013 23:00

Personally whatever you decide I probably wouldn't knock on the door tho. He has threatened you once and is in there with people high on coke it could be quite risky.

FairyJen · 12/01/2013 23:01

X post viva

volvocowgirl · 12/01/2013 23:02

Phone the police and report the party and the drug taking. Make sure you mention he has previously made threats to kill, or at least shoot you.

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rubydoobydoo · 12/01/2013 23:03

We haven't spoken to him today about last night - it's still been in full swing since and it sounds a bit volatile through the wall so we're erring on the side of caution this time!

I think that if it's still going on after we go to bed we should bang on the wall first (neighbour himself has said if we do this he'll shut up - not sure about his mates but I'd like to give him the chance!) and then call the police if it's still going on after that.

DP thinks we should just go straight to the police - as they do have a history of going quiet when the police turn up and then as soon as the police have gone thevolume goes straight back up.

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MarilynValentine · 12/01/2013 23:03

Call the police. No question.

He is responsible for the upset and exhaustion he has caused you, and he's threatened you, and ignored your recent pleas.

ilovesooty · 12/01/2013 23:07

If he's on licence he might well be subject to drug testing. I think the police might well be interested if you advise them that Class A drugs are part of the picture. I wouldn't attempt to contact him either.

ahmnoclassyladybut · 12/01/2013 23:15

If you call the police, won't it be flagged if you ever try and sell your house (assuming you are not renting)?

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rubydoobydoo · 12/01/2013 23:24

We are renting at the moment, our landlady is lovely and is fully aware of the situation at the moment - we've just bought a house (10 miles away so the chances of our shit neighbour ending up next door are remote!) but our vendor is in a slow-moving chain so we're stuck here for the time being.

I've started playing "shit neighbour bingo". Things to cross off are: Rapping along badly to whatever's on the stereo, shouting at someone called Emma, making monkey noises for no apparent reason, non-specific banging that makes our floor vibrate, someone shouting "leave it!".

I shall update later with whatever we do - they're very loud at the moment but we're still up so it's annoying us more than affecting us!

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pigletmania · 13/01/2013 00:03

Think about it indontthink think you can reason with someone who threatens to shoot you no way. You don't know what he might do to you. Police is the best option

Reaa · 13/01/2013 00:47

I'm not sure what calling the police will do, you said yourself they turn music back up once police have left, if you are moving soon and so is he can you and DH invest in a set of earplugs each? I know it's not an ideal situation but you will be away from it all very soon.

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rubydoobydoo · 13/01/2013 00:48

Police called. Banged on the wall and they got louder.

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rubydoobydoo · 13/01/2013 02:06

Well a fat lot of good that did. Police came - they told they police they'd try to be quieter. Police went. They got louder. We banged on the wall again - they banged back and carried on.

I'm feeling a bit murderous right now.

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MidniteScribbler · 13/01/2013 02:22

Keep calling the police. As soon as they leave the driveway, call again. Over and over. Make it so they get so annoyed at having to keep coming back that they will break up the party.

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rubydoobydoo · 13/01/2013 02:35

I've called the police again. I really feel for DP - he already has problems with sleep, and this is making him feeling really depressed. He's talking like he's completely given up on everything Sad

DP is now holed up in the spare room trying to get some sleep, the party next door is in full swing again and I'm waiting up for the police as they're sending an officer to talk to us too this time. Hopefully they'll come here first so they can hear what we're having to put up with.

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