to have pretended to be ill just to get a rest

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My dp is worcaholic but with two children under two one of them newborn I am finding things hard and would just appreciate a little break now and then. Dp will arrange jobs for his days off and just expect me to be fine with not getting a break. He wont even let me get a bit of a lie in on days wen he doesn't have to start early. And I'm talking maybe til 8 instead of 6. I'm glad he's hard working but other people seem to get far more support from their other halves. I've been feelin very tiered lately he knows this and would have loved an hour to myself today maybe for a nap so I have pretended to be ill so that dp will look afta our toddler and give me a break. I feel very guilty for lying but just needed a rest!

yanbu to have a rest ... but you shouldnt have to lie to your do to get a rest. perhaps when things are calm kids in bed both rested tell him the truth and talk about it.

maybe you will need to do this weekly so you get some respite. You should really discuss how he is going to give you a proper break though. Have you tried?

Sounds like my husband, he is a tradesmen so as well as his 9-5 job he is also taking a lot of private jobs on so I am at home heavily pregnant with toddler.

It's such a hard position to be in because although I love that he is working hard to provide for us I really feel like I need a break.

I'm not due for a few weeks but when baby arrives I will be having the 'I need some me time' chat

I have to admit, when I've been ill I have over dramatised it so I didn't feel so bad leaving him to it

Thats exactly it snickers but if u told ur dp you felt really ill would he stil try leaving u with baby and toddler so he could go to a job?? Its just the selfishness that gets me like I've ruined his plans! It was the same whilst pregnant to be honest I was exhausted but just left to get on with it most of the time! Are all men really this ignorant?

Yep i think they are OR we just do a REALLY good job at taking care of every thing they think we are wonder women!! My DP does hardley any house work and gets shattered if he hoovers stairs to 'help' me out! When this babba gets here i will be putting her in playgroup at least one morning a week so i can sleep/shower/have a coffee/walk round asda in peace. u defo need to speak to him. Dont ask either tell him! lol, peoples lazyness in my house holds no bounds cant even shut a cubard door when getting a glass for a drink and that my DP! He is a love in every other way tho, but even the cook,cleaner,house keeper,childminder,taxi driver general dogs body need a break! Actually funny story-- my friend told her two sons 19/21 she had a hystorectomy and they had to do EVERY thing for 6 weeks, brews in bed, cleaning, cooking even pulled her up and down to shop on a sledge when it was snowing! HONESTLY! she actually had two ingrowing toe nails taken out LOL xx

Yep he would still leave me to get on but god forbid if he is ill

When I was first pg I used to get the worse migranes where I literally had to lay down in a dark room for it to go and I begged him to finish early and take over ds, he got home about half hour than usual claiming he cancelled two jobs, I was fuming!

Other than this he is an amazing husband who I otherwise cannot fault.

It's a hard battle to fight, although i need a break I feel like I can hardly moan as its not like he's down the pub!