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to find my boyfriend immature when it comes to talking about periods?

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BeachBunnyMegs · 11/01/2013 15:19

I can't quite remember what I said

But I think it was something along the lines of I've had to stop taking the pill and my first period afterwards was one of the most painful ones I'd had.

(we got onto this because I wanted him to wear a condom)

Then he replies - I'm not sure I want to do it now that you've brought that up.

That being periods.

I was a bit - I just find it so immature, he's 26 ffs and you'd think he was a school boy still.

My ex before him if I mentioned anything to do with periods he was fine about it, wouldn't even flinch.

I'm not expecting men to know everything about periods but I do expect them to at least not recoil in horror at the mere mention of one.

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PaperFlowers · 11/01/2013 15:25

FFS indeed! It doesn't sound like you were being terribly graphic. I think he needs to grow up a bit.

Get him watching babies coming out of women's fandangos on One Born Every Minute. Should put periods RIGHT into persepctive for him.

Seriously though, is he perhaps a bit ignorant about such things? He might be being a bit twatty out of embarassment.

SashaSashays · 11/01/2013 15:31

Sounds annoying but it might just be one of his 'quirks'. Just tell him its annoying, and put into perspective of is this one minor thing or one in a long list of immature things he does.

My DH cannot stand blood. He can just about face minor amounts on tv, but in real life or reading/hearing about it makes him go really queasy. He's been known to pass out at a centimetre long cut on my hand. I can't talk to him about my periods but its just one of those annoying things I don't like about him like channel flicking or loud sneezing.

No big deal surely?

Tiiiny · 11/01/2013 15:33

My BF is squeamish about periods too, and he's 34.

I told him that an egg is a chicken's period and now he can't eat them

MrsWolowitz · 11/01/2013 15:34

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valiumredhead · 11/01/2013 15:36

I'd find it hard to be with someone who was so immature.

nickelbabe · 11/01/2013 15:37

i don't like having sex when i'm on my period.

does that make me squeamish?
i think it's a bit bleurgh too.

i think periods are bleurgh.

i don't see why men should feel comfortable discussing things like that if they don't want to. sure, tell them you're on and to be nice to you for a week, but they don't need to know any more than that.
unless they're not being nice and you need to be graphic to make them get you a cup of tea and some chocolate.

SirBoobAlot · 11/01/2013 15:38

I have gyne issues. DP knows more about my periods and reproductive system than I would like to know about them.

Your boyfriend didn't want to have sex once you reminded him that you have periods? Sheesh. Tell him to grow the hell up.

BackforGood · 11/01/2013 15:47

It's not necessarily immaturity, it could well be squeamishness.
tbh, I don't see the need to talk about periods a lot myself!

ISeeSmallPeople · 11/01/2013 15:51

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valiumredhead · 11/01/2013 15:53

She didn't ask him to have sex though nickel, she mentioned the reason why they needed to uses a condom - hardly graphic!

nickelbabe · 11/01/2013 16:51

yeah, i still wouldn't.

[boak]

(it's not even like you can ignore it - it's all over the condom when you've pulled out! and you have to make sure it doesn't go all over the sheets)

juniper904 · 11/01/2013 16:52

My dp is the same. When I had a period, he went all prudish and referred to my 'lady bits'. He's a doctor ffs!

juneybean · 11/01/2013 17:01

I don't think she was on her period :S she just said she needed to use condom as she came off the pill.

SirBoobAlot · 11/01/2013 17:12

Get him one of these for his next cuppa.

valiumredhead · 12/01/2013 11:40

nickel she wasn't asking him to have sex while she was on her period though She mentioned they had to use condoms as she has had to stop taking the pill.

nickelbabe · 12/01/2013 11:45

ah, i thought they were specifically talking about having sex during the period.

valiumredhead · 12/01/2013 11:53

No, she just casually mentioned that she felt rough because of her period

SpicyPear · 12/01/2013 12:09

I think that is very immature. I have terrible periods and if I couldn't mention it to DH it would be really awful, as sometimes it does affect going out and doing stuff, or i might randomly shout out in pain.

Pandemoniaa · 12/01/2013 12:13

He's being ludicrously silly and yes, very immature. My DP is also squeamish (medical programmes on TV are accompanied by me advising him to "avoid this bit") but he was always perfectly happy to buy me tampons or discuss periods when necessary. Both my sons have also grown up to treat periods as the entirely natural thing that they are.

Your DP sounds as if he needs to grow up a bit, OP. The days when periods were treated like a mysterious and somewhat shameful process that must been kept well away from men are long gone.

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