AIBU to be annoyed at ppl telling my DW that she is only pregnant not ill..

[WheelybodsDH]

Everyone keeps telling my DW that she is "only" pregnant not ill, however she has had 3 UTIs in the last month and is disabled as well. AIBU to think that her pregnancy is going to be harder than what is considered normal?

Yes, DQ is drama queen. Thanks for all the replies :-)

Doctrine I suffer with UTI's a lot and had a lot when pregnant both times. I never had a problem getting antibiotics to treat it, they changed depending on gestation but honestly, yes I was ill but it was more than likely being exacerbated by being pregnant and so I'd tell my Dh and DM but I wouldn't tell every man and his dog my aches and pains. Nobody wants to hear it at the best of times.

I do agree that when people are suffering from hyperemisis and more severe problems (a friend is currently suffering from kidney failure whilst pregnant) that they are 'only pregnant', I do think it's unjust.

I don't advertise all my ailments usually so I don't see why I'd broadcast them whilst pregnant though.

I don't get it when people tell women who are pregnant and ill that they're just pregnant not ill. A non-pregnant person who is ill is described as ill, so why not a pregnant person?

Being pregnant can make you feel like you've been hit by a bus, even if there aren't any complications. Saying you're 'only pregnant' seriously underestimates how awful you can feel. Yes, we all know women have been doing this since time began, but it doesn't mean you can't feel cack.

YANBU!

People seem to behave in very rude ways towards pregnant women.

I remember working with a man who used that line about a girl we both worked with who was pregnant...I really wanted to say how would you know, you will never physically experience the traumas women have to go through in pregnancy and beyond...I was young and hadn't found my tongue so didn't say anything out loud unfortunately!

I was very fortunate during my pregnancy, a few aches and pains, but seeing some women walking with crutches etc made me realise how lucky I was.

It is even more annoying when it's women being bitchy about a pregnant women...especially those who have been there!

How awful for your DW, luckily she has you to support her.

I think those people are being very unkind and rude.

My first pregnancy was a breeze. My third was hard work (sick as a dog, terrible SPD, exhausted). I would not have appreciated anyone springing the 'pregnant not ill' line on me.

Pregnancies vary. Some feel worse than others.

And anyone throwing up several times a day who was NOT pregnant would consider themselves ill, being pregnant didn't magically make it more bearable.