I do like her and I'm generally a patient person but I am running out of patience now.
She keeps inviting me to her house for a coffee during the day whilst our children are at school. About 6 weeks ago, she approached me at the start of the week and asked if I was free for coffee on the Friday. I said I was, and we arranged a time, at her house. On the Friday I turned up at her house at the said time only to find no one was in. She doesn't live far from me so I went home, and text her to say I hoped everything was ok as I'd been to her house as planned and she hadn't been there. I received no reply until the Sunday, when she said she'd been tired so had gone back to bed once she'd dropped the children at school.
I thought perhaps she'd been ill or feeling down or something like that, so I gave her the benefit of the doubt that time, and a couple of weeks later she invited me round again, which I accepted, but this time rather than turn up at her house, I decided to phone her on the morning just to double check arrangements. There was no reply on her landline 10 minutes before I was due round to hers, so I left an answerphone message saying I had been ringing to check all was ok for this morning, but I was assuming something had cropped up as she wasn't home, could she give me a quick call if she still wanted to go round. And nothing, no reply, until 2 days later again when she sent a quick text saying sorry she hadn't answered her phone but she'd been ill and had left her phone in the car so couldn't text me.
I decided after that to just leave it. I wouldn't class her as a good friend, so I thought I'd let it go, having given her a fair chance. However she approached me at the school again yesterday and asked was I free this morning. I said that I wasn't and she then looked crestfallen and said it was such a shame as she really wanted to catch up with me as we hadn't met up for ages. And now I feel really bad, but tbh I don't want to keep being messed around by her. I know there's the possibility she could be ill or depressed but she's still going to work, and going to the gym each week so she can't be that bad.
I can just see it getting into a pattern of her letting me down all the time if I let her.