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AIBU?

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to think that the bin does actually need to be taken out tonight?

20 replies

PurpleStorm · 09/01/2013 23:21

It's our recycling bin day tomorrow - we get recycling collected one week, and general black bin waste the next. The bin men usually turn up before DH gets out of bed.

At the minute, I can't take the bins out, because DH was decluttering the garden shed about 2 months ago and has created a hazardous teetery obstacle course of heavy old fashioned lawnmowers, planks, snowshovels and the like in our side alley, and the gate on the side alley only opens from the inside. DH said that he didn't want me to take out the rubbish in case I tripped and injured myself on all the stuff from the shed, and that he would do it all. And he gets really tetchy and goes on about the dangers if I take the rubbish out anyway.

Because we were away over Christmas, we've got 4 weeks worth of recycling, it won't all fit in the bin, and it's taking over our kitchen.

DH has not taken the recycling out to the front of the house today, despite being reminded it's bin day tomorrow. DH wants to sit on the sofa and watch Star Trek and eat pizza, and says he'll get up early and take the recycling out first thing in the morning.

I don't trust DH to actually do this because he's terrible at mornings. He stays in bed as long as possible and then staggers around like a zombie until he's had at least 2 cups of coffee. I think he'll forget all about it until he hears the bin lorry - assuming he does hear it - and then it'll be too late.

WIBU to risk clambering all over teetery piles of junk to take the bin out now?

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WorraLiberty · 09/01/2013 23:23

No of course YANBU

You've just as much chance of falling over as he has

Just tread carefully

manicbmc · 09/01/2013 23:25

In those circumstances, I'd do it myself. You know he isn't going to and then you end up with 6 weeks worth of recycling.

SquinkiesRule · 09/01/2013 23:25

YANBU, are you tempted to put the movie on hold and hide the remote till it's done? Works on the kids.

Footface · 09/01/2013 23:44

No yanbu, he is but leave it he's said he'd take it out, if he doesn't it will be his problem and he'll have to get rid of it

BluelightsAndSirens · 09/01/2013 23:51

I wouldn't fancy doing it now but I would have done it myself this afternoon.

Do you have a dump near you? We have taken our rubbish there over the Christmas period to stop it piling up you could take all the junk he has pled up with you

FreddieMercurysBolero · 09/01/2013 23:55

just take it out through the house instead. He should take it out though, lazy fucker. My DH is the same sometimes.

MrsMushroom · 10/01/2013 03:19

take it out yourself. Yanbu to want Dh to do it since he made the garden dangerous but him getting funny about you ding it is weird imo. Cant you get it through the house and then out round the side?

Tortoiseonthehalfshell · 10/01/2013 03:22

He "goes on about the dangers if I take the rubbish out anyway"? As in, even when there are not teetery piles of junk everywhere? That is totally bonkers, unless I guess you live on a shooting range or a race track or something?

PurpleStorm · 10/01/2013 06:37

tortoise - he's only gone on about it being dangerous since he emptied half the shed into the side alley. It would be safe enough if he hadn't done that!

And taking it through the house is not an option, as DH has piled the junk inbetween the house and the bins. The bins are next to the gate, on the other side of the piles.

Dh did take the bin out last night after he spotted me going outside to do it myself.

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MrsMushroom · 10/01/2013 07:11

Dh needs to fix this asap as it's a fire hazard and a h&s issue too. How does HE manage but you can't?

PurpleStorm · 10/01/2013 07:21

He's got longer legs than me.

I've been asking DH to clear the alley out but so far he's been finding excuses not to.

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diddl · 10/01/2013 07:56

He´s a twat.

HTH.

fluffyraggies · 10/01/2013 08:14

Grin @ diddl

Sorry OP but i have to smile at this. With us it's 'DH's job' to deal with the rubbish. (He also deals with the cars and any laddery jobs and loft related stuff. It works for us) Our bin men also come at the crack of bloody dawn early, and DH is always in a strop about putting the bins out. Why he doesn't put them out the night before is beyond me. Our neighbours all do.

Rather than take over the job, if and when he missed them and our bins got overfull, i started to leave the ball in his court and just hand him the black sack of rubbish when her was around and say vaguely 'i've got nowhere to put this love. Here you are', and wander off. Que him smashing and banging about and swearing up the side of the house with the overstuffed bins.

He hasn't missed a bin day for months now.

samandi · 10/01/2013 09:38

Presuming you are fit and healthy it's ridiculous for you not to be able to take out the rubbish. If it's "his job" though, he should do it.

He "goes on about the dangers if I take the rubbish out anyway"

And presuming you are not living in a ghetto that's pathetic.

diddl · 10/01/2013 09:45

To get back to the OP-I find it´s generally best to do them the night before.

Why couldn´t he have done them after pizza & ST??

Did they get done?

Why doesn´t he clean the mess away so that it´s not an obstacle course?

LessMissAbs · 10/01/2013 09:48

I actually live in a city so snooty, you get a letter from the council threatening legal action against you if you put the bins out the night before! (the neighbours must have complained...)

And yes, of course your DH should simply get off his backside and put the bin out!

justmyview · 10/01/2013 09:49

Going forward, if your agreed division of household chores includes him doing bins, then I don't think you should do it. By doing so, you enable his behaviour (if you crack and do something that he should have done himself, he gets away with being slow

sooperdooper · 10/01/2013 09:51

dangers of taking the rubbish out

Seriously? Hmm
Do it yourself, you're not going to die putting out some rubbish

Softlysoftly · 10/01/2013 09:53

Does he have his own car? If he misses it go out in daylight to negotiate the maze of crap, unload all the rubbish/recycling into his car. Mention he might be needing to make time for a tip run as he leaves the house. Grin

maddening · 10/01/2013 10:11

I feel your pain - df takes the bins out as he is off to work early normally.

He was off new years eve and only remembered at 2 pm - we put it out but was too late as it didn't get collected. So by next monday we'll have a month's worth - this is normal household waste :(

Will have to do a skip run ( have some boxes to go anyay) - this is the worst bit of fortnightly collections - you miss one and it means a month of rubbish :(

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