To be unsure about having my cousins 15 year old aneroxic dd to stay during February halfterm

[stormforce10]

To start I will have her. My cousin really needs a break and she's always been good to me but I really don't know how I'm going to look after her.

She's been in and out of hospital with aneroxia since she was 13. When she's well she's a lovely friendly girl but when she's not she's a major worry. At the moment she's reasonably well but I'm very nervous about what will happen if she relapses while she's with us or finds it too much pressure being with us.

We are just a normal family - me, dp, 8 year old dd and 5 month old ds. my cousin is hoping she'll find baby a distraction as she loves babies and hopes to go into childcare when she's older.

I'm just worried I'll mess it up or make her worse. AIBU? PRobably this should be somewhere else so if there's a better place please tell me and I'll ask for it to be moved. In the meantime advice would be appreciated please.

stormforce I'm really glad that you're getting fantastic support here, and really hope DN's stay goes brilliantly.

It's great you've now received professional insight and contact, invaluable in these circumstances, and hope you are looking forward to a wonderful time with DN.

I took my niece with an eating disorder on overseas holiday with our family, with some degree of nervousness about what to do, what she'd eat etc. She was fine, she ate small healthy meals and loved the distraction of the kids around etc.

Her control over food did not become obvious to any of the other children (9, 7 &4 yrs) and she never refused food, although we tried to make it healthy, small portions etc.

She usually had a high energy (?protein) type drink, but her mum said she didn't need to bring it for a week, as she was only having it periodically.

So breathe in, think smart and you'll be fine :)