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This can't be true can it? Ebay.

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lollilou · 07/01/2013 14:49

Is there any way I can find out if this email from a seller on Ebay is true? I am in floods of tears over this. Heres what he wrote,
"I hope your lil keyboard warrior efforts made you feel good - the reason I have not been in touch or dealt with the issue was the fact that my daughter sadly passed away just before Christmas and I held her funeral on the 28th of December so forgive me if having some stranger twist about 2.50 second hand tshirts were not top of my priority list!! Here is hopin you never ever have to experience the pain of losing a child and then have someone twist and twine on at you about a postal service which is beyond anyone's control!"
I'm shaking and crying how was I to know?

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44SoStartingOver · 07/01/2013 16:11

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FannyFifer · 07/01/2013 16:12

That sounds total bollocks to me.

Have had similar mental emails from EBay sellers or buyers.

What is the rest of the persons feedback like out of interest?

MrsDeVere · 07/01/2013 16:15

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fuzzpig · 07/01/2013 16:16

Jeez do people really make this stuff up just to avoid feedback? That's horrific.

You can view individual feedback comments so it'd be interesting to see if they've had similar comments in the past.

ConfusedPixie · 07/01/2013 16:24

Forward the email to ebay as others have said. Another person who doubts it's true here as it is a common thing on ebay and I have had similar before, leave the feedback.

LisaMed · 07/01/2013 16:27

my inlaws have a high mortality rate in the run up to Christmas and getting a funeral on 28/12 is like unicorn poo. All our funerals had to wait until after the New Year.

Bad stuff happens, but if you are upset about something you will only be nasty if you are nasty to start with ime.

Probably not true, even if it is then the first bit of the email should read, 'I'm really sorry but...' (have a sneaky hug anyway, it's not nice to be on the end of this)

LeeCoakley · 07/01/2013 16:30

I had a seller use the same sort of tactic on the MN buy and sell boards! I believed her and commiserated, then other tragic things happened and I made all the right noises, then it became obvious she had no intention of sending me the goods and had just made it all up to keep mine and other people's money. I noticed she named changed a few times and I kept popping up with 'still waiting for my item' but she/he never responded.

Pinot · 07/01/2013 16:40

seriously bad karma if he is lying Shock Shock

send it to ebay

don't reply

block his email address incase he comes again directly to you

soulresolution · 07/01/2013 16:49

I used to buy a lot on ebay and tho I never had a message this extreme have had lots of absurd excuses. The message you had doesn't ring true at all but I wouldn't bother sending the email to ebay or taking any more action - it's only going to escalate a nasty situation. Leave it and put it down to crap ebay experience - I've vowed to steer clear of them this year.

TandB · 07/01/2013 16:55

I'd be surprised if this is genuine. I've had a couple of late payments explained by dramatic circumstances, including one person claiming to be the original purchaser's daughter after the purchaser allegedly died. Funny that she still wanted the items which were for a specific hobby - and purchased some other stuff later using her "late mother's" account - I checked the feedback a while later after curiosity.

boomting · 07/01/2013 17:04

I'd tend to doubt it too. If it was someone so young, then there's a fair chance that the death was unexpected / hadn't seen a doctor in the last three months. That means that the coroner has to be informed, and a post mortem performed. There's absolutely no way that that would happen at any speed over Christmas. Even in the middle of the year when I had an elderly relative drop dead with no warning (who therefore needed a post mortem) it was a good three weeks before the funeral.

Still, you couldn't have known about it.

JustPondering · 07/01/2013 17:11

It is unlikely but last year my Dad died in december and I had a funeral to arrange, after a couple of huffy emails from a buyer on ebay about an item that was a few days late I explained what had happened and said I was sorry for the inconvenience, they gave me bad feedback regardless so I guess they didn't believe me.

My Dad died at the beginning of december, had a postmortem and was still buried a week before christmas by the way.

JustPondering · 07/01/2013 17:13

Well he was cremated actually, don't know if that makes a difference.

stormforce10 · 07/01/2013 17:16

Very sad if true and also very sad if not true that someone would make up a story like this.

Just reply as suggested above and think no more of it. You couldnt possibly have known their circumstances

ItsOkayItsJustMyBreath · 07/01/2013 17:24

I am so sorry OP, it really wasn't anything you could have known about if it is true so please don't feel bad.

I am now feeling very uncomfortable as I bought something from a seller and then my OH left and I had so much to sort out that I didn't re-pay the seller (she'd given the wrong paypal account address) immediately and she emailed me to ask when she would receive payment. I apologised profusely and explained that I had been busy sorting out bills etc and throwing his stuff into black bags but now I'm wondering if she actually believed me. She was very nice about it though. I am so naive with this kind of thing!

munchkinmaster · 07/01/2013 17:39

All this waiting for weeks for a funeral is an English thing. In Scotland if you die on a Monday you could well be buried on Friday .

meah · 07/01/2013 17:44

OMG That is absolutely disgusting regardless to whether or not the incident actually happened. A message explaining his situation would have been sufficient.

My advice would be to visit his ebay page and check to see he has had any other recent activity on his account, also carry on with your complaint you where not to know & there is no way on earth you could have known, so do not be upset be angry. Angry

cumfy · 07/01/2013 17:57

I hope your lil keyboard warrior efforts made you feel good

The opening words of someone suffering unimaginable grief ?

lljkk · 07/01/2013 17:59

It's a load of crock, OP. Forget about it.

If you lost a child the last thing you'd give a Fig about would be Neg Feedback on Ebay. It just wouldn't rate, you sure couldn't be bothered to type a ranty message about it.

I once won a bike seat from someone who then said her husband died suddenly. I believed her because her messages & apologies rang true & she was about 5 days slower than posting it out than she might have been, but otherwise the transaction was as normal.

twinklesparkles · 07/01/2013 18:01

I've had something like that before also hun

Also, if it is true, would they really be on ebay? Or concerned about their ebay feedback? Surely they would have more to cope with following the death of a child than be worried about ebay

Send your condolences incase it is true, but continue with your case.

LovesBeingAtHomeForChristmas · 07/01/2013 18:07

Do not worry, you have no reason to feel bad of course you don't know (if it's true)

Seriously shrug it off.

3smellysocks · 07/01/2013 18:44

Even if it was true he could have just said 'I'm sorry for the postal problem, I've been dealing with a close family bereievement and will sort out the issue for you now' but instead he chose to act like a nastily. You are not psychic, you did not know his DD had died, he could have dealt with the problem in a polite manner but chose not to.

13Iggis · 07/01/2013 18:53

Munchkinmaster - in Northern Ireland, if you died on a Monday you could be buried by Wednesday!

Agree with everryone OP, not your fault.

Nancy66 · 07/01/2013 18:58

Another one who thinks it's unlikely to be true.

My grandmother died on the 22nd December 2011 and we had to wait nearly a month for the first funeral date.

3monkeys3 · 07/01/2013 18:58

You can't know either way - I once told a buyer on eBay that I was difficult to get hold of because my dd was in hospital - it was true. I wasn't nasty though and that email is very nasty. Regardless, there is no way you could have known about it - I would just delete it and put it down to experience.