to be mad with ils and with dp for not being mad?

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I am mad at ils but i am more mad with dp not being mad, or pretending not to be mad cos its his parents.

dp has taken a day off work to prepare for an interview. i took dd1 to school and then took dd2 to playgroup all morn to give him space. I came back and did us all lunch and then piled everything on sofas to run the hoover through quickly before dd2s nap, 1-3, has to be quite scheduled as i pick dd2 up from school at 3.15 so if dd2 is late for nap i have to cut it short and she wont then sleep in pushchair. so dp would then have peace all afternoon too.

except door knocked at 12.45, ils in porch with shoes off, theyve come for a cup of tea and to bring us eggs. i let them in and apologise for no seating but im about to hoover.

they push stuff off sofa, sit down and say put the kettle on. they are surprised to see dp, obvoiusly expecting just me and dds. dd2 is yawning saying tired but mil keeps screeching and tickling her.

ils hand me the eggs, 3 creme eggs, 2 for girls and 1 for dp. thanks. so they came expecting just me but didnt bring me an egg. and i thought they meant chicken eggs tbh.

they left at 1.30 as dd2 was on floor trying to sleep, i then had to rush hoover round main bits and give up and put her to cot and move everything back down, instead of doing a proper job.

i know they didnt know i was about to hoover, and they dont know dd2 nap times, but if they phoned and said did i want a visit i would have said it wasnt a good time, and surely they could see it was inconvenient.

my mom would have run the hoover round or helped me put stuff away or put dd to cot while i tidied, they just sit there, aaagh.

dp says, it doesnt matter, they might think id like a visit. bigger aaaagh.

They came in before finding out if it was inconvenient, pushed stuff onto the floorwhen you said you were about to hoover then told you to put the kettle on?

That alone would have pissee me off but the creme egg meanness would have given me the rage!!!

Yanbu, are they usually disrespectful of you?

Sorry but i think you are mean spirited is hovering so was very important that its a problem lighten up and enjoy visitors

I think YABU to expect your DP to be upset in equal parts.

However, YANBU in being rather pissed off to discover this rampaging, shoeless horde pushing everything off the sofa in order to sit down and hand everyone else a creme egg. Even though I think Creme Egss are, in fact, one of the most disgusting bits of confectionary ever made.

i love creme eggs, they are my favourite chocolate, i may eat all 3
i couldnt leave the hoovering, well i didnt want to as id piled the toy mountain on the sofa and could actually see carpet for once.

ils do not help, ever, they popped in when dd1 was a few weeks old and dp was back at work and i was bf every 5 mins to help me, mil said she was gasping for tea so i suggested she make us all a cuppa while i finished feeding dd and she said , no we will wait, and sat there till id finished feeding, burping etc.

normally front door and porch door are locked, i had opened both doors and put pushchair and shoes outside to hoover.

im obviously not still mad now byw, incase you all think im a nutter still bothered about a visit hours ago.