To want to change our holiday?

[Lily15]

This is more of a what would you do post...

A good friend and I have booked a surprise 3 night stay in Las Vegas to celebrate our other half's birthdays ( they hit a milestone birthday within 3 months of each other) The holiday is before both their bdays due to babysitting, better weather etc. It is meant to be a total surprise.

Two months after we booked my friend has now said she wants to get married whilst we are there. I'm very happy for them but it really takes away from what it was meant for..and for the price I paid to make my husbands bday treat extra special! There's also the possibility that more guests may want to come out as she will be telling her other half beforehand now.. There goes the surprise! I feel like I should tell my husband now too so he knows this was about him not about their wedding! Should I say something to her? Should I just go along with it? What would you do? X

How lovely that your friend is getting married. I can see that it's not what you planned and that may be annoying.
In your shoes I would surprise my dh with the details of the holiday now and then explain the change of plan. I am sure he will be delighted with both. A holiday and a dear friends wedding is something to look forward to, especially in gloomy January

Thank you. I will definitely tell him before so it is something to look forward too... It is annoying but never mind xx

Your post sounds like she's decided she wants to get married there but hasn't actually discussed this yet with her OH?

Is there a possibility that he will say no?

I'd speak to her first and see if she is def getting married there before mentioning anything to you DH

I'd say something to her, and tell her that her wedding wasn't what you are going for. You are going to celebrate your husbands birthday, not her wedding, and you want it to stay that way.

If she objects, then tell your husband and decide together what you want to do about it.