I've been totally unreasonable!!! How can I rectify it?

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Just been sat in waiting for my boiler to be fixed and it suddenly dawned on me...

DS was supposed to be at his friends birthday party yesterday!

I feel terrible! We got the invites just as they were going to break up and she confirmed with us all during the nativity play :( I know another mum has forgotten as well because I said I would follow her up there and she didn't say anything yesterday :(

There isn't many children at the school (special school) and that's 2 less that we're at the party because I bloody forgot!

No excuse for it, nothing particularly special about yesterday, I just forgot! (extremely sleep deprived though)

What can I do? I won't see his mum for ages as her son gets a taxi to and from school. Should I send in a gift and a little sorry note? I feel awful!

Were... Auto correct

Yep - the present you would have bought if you had remembered, and a note apologising.

Than you won't feel so awful

Thank you I hope lots of people turned up

Ask the school to pass on a message for you and yes it would be nice to send in the present too.

I know how bad this makes you feel. Most of us have done this at some point.

I agree, a sorry note explaining and a card and gift for the birthday child would be nice. I am sure she will understand it was an accident and you didn't plan not to attend.

If you wanted to do something extra maybe you could invite your son's friend round to play or for tea so they can spend sometime together and the birthday child has another fun thing to look forward to.

Thanks everyone school are always happy to pass on gifts etc so that shouldn't be a problem.

I can't have the little boy over unfortunately. DS has ASD and is extremely territorial, so it wouldn't be a fun day. When I have other children over its extremely planned and there are a certain few who can come over now

maybe little gift and a treat trip somewhere?

Send in a note and the gift. How about meeting up somewhere ASD friendly with the children or just meeting up with the mum for a coffee while they are in school.

It's hard to get to know other parents when your child is in special school.

Yes all brilliant ideas thank you. I really hope he had a good day.

Might it be wise to arrange with the parents for your and DS to pop around with the present if possible... let the kids play whilst you grovel over a cup or tea? These things are always best solved face to face, although uncomfortable initially, the outcome will be much more positive due to the effort you go to by actually being there.

Oh dear!

I would ring and apologise and arrange to take round a gift and card.

The sooner you ring and say sorry the less awkward it will be.