to think "yeah you go back to bed you fucker"

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Up since 7.00am. In A&E since 8.00 on a nebuliser, steroids and narrowly missing an admission.
DH collects me with a shoeless DD, home, cup of coffee and then he announces he is off to bed. dd is doing the dance of the bored 5 year old and I am seriously not able to do much with her

TEETH GRINDING HERE. Shaky and upset.
Mind, he has had a headache this morning after 2 bottles of wine last night so .....
FUCK MY OLD BOOTS

LOL at the married him bit. Yep me too-fools arent we! I totally agree about the no respect because I am a sahm bit. I told him the other day that actually being a sahm does NOT mean that I am his personal skivvy or dogsbody but I just get a face or something muttered under his breath.

I have repeatedly asked him to leave and go back to his mothers but he treats it as a joke.

Why do you put up with such selfish behaviour?

You should have come home, got into bed and told him to deal with it, you know, like a responsible, caring adult.

When I see threads like this and the one where a woman is asking if a man is capable of putting his two children to bed on his own, I despair, I really do.

A serious talk happened. I am fed, in bed, child washed and fed, he is feeling abashed. I think a lot of this bullshit will be resolved when I am better and in work. Men take the piss, I am not his mum, but any sign of vulnerability and Otis like an itch he has to scratch.

He is perfectly capable of caring for DD, but it is on his terms. I know I can go back to work. He knows how capable I am, I do not need him that scares the holy shite out of him...

Decent men with emotional maturity and who actually respect their partners, do not "take the piss".
They take equal responsibility for parenting and the smooth running of a household.

Did you say 'Actually, I need to go to bed myself, so you'll need to look after DD.'? If not, why not? And if so, what was his response?

I think a lot of this bullshit will be resolved when I am better and in work. Men take the piss, I am not his mum, but any sign of vulnerability and Otis like an itch he has to scratch.

Men do not behave like this. Yours does, but in general men do not.

I didn't take a firmer stance as I felt too ill and tired, difficult to be tigress with a not totally functioning set of lungs. I let him walk over me as I felt so shit. Not an excuse, just circumstances.
I did ask him if he really wanted to be here given his lack of concer and apparent indifference. In reality I am none the wiser. He know he is in the wrong, tries to make amends there is something about this that brings out a twatishness that is shocking

Not being funny felicity have u read the threads from other women elsewhere on MM?

Most men do not need a "serious talk" to behave like a decent human being. A decent human being recognises when someone else needs putting first, and does it without argument.

I know AF. Believe me, I do expect more... I have a plan. I cannot ignore it anymore, or keep smiling as it sinks under me dopey shit that I a,

In your position I would be looking for a job now, I know you aren't well (& are in recovery) but it doesn't take too much effort to look and start sending off CV's or whatever, it might take a while to get a job, so I wouldn't wait until I felt well.

Then I would be putting a plan in place to leave the twat. Sure he might treat you better when you are well & working, but so what?? There's no way I'd want to be with someone who could treat me so horribly when I was in that much pain (from your back) or that ill (from asthma) - let alone both together. No way. Single parent without the fuckwit would be FAR more appealing.

Chipping, that's the plan. Saw some spot on jobs tester day that filled me with hope for myself. Need a bit more time to recoup

Im sorry OP but my first ever LTB. When you love someone you should care about their health and happiness and do anything to take care of them. Even if I have a cold or just feel tired my OH does the tea and dinner etc.

But you know him OP I would suggest really considerimg if you can see youself forever with him.

UnMn hugs Get well soon.