To give a child a bag of dog shit?

[HDee]

For months now we have had to deal with some shitty dog crapping outside our front door. Our door goes directly onto pavement but we've never managed to catch the culprit. Each morning we need to check the street outside our house before we can let the children make their way to the car because more often than not he is a steaming pile ready for us to walk in.

This morning we saw the person responsible. It's a girl walking her ratty little terrier, aged about 12. Upon seeing the dog squat I ran and got my boots on but they had disappeared before I could get out there. Low and behold, there are about 5 little lumps of poo scattered across the path, right outside.

I've bagged it up and am waiting for her to walk back again, but wibu to hand her the shit and tell her if it happens again I will be following her home and posting it through her letterbox? She might only be 12, but my 11 year old is expected to poo-pick when he walks our dog so the is no reason why she shouldn't be either.

Am fuming. We've had months of this. Why couldn't it have just been an adult and I'd have told them exactly what I think.

I think speaking to her is a good idea, but I don't think you should do it today (if you do catch sight of her again). I know you have been big enough to apologise, but you are in an aggressive and confrontational mood (understandable to a degree) and you simply can't approach a child you do not know while feeling like that.

The most sensible thing to do though would be to figure out where she is and have a word with the parents.

"Are children that age allowed to be in sole charge of a dog in the UK?"

There's not a law for everything thankfully. (Yet)

my dog only goes in my garden ,and if out ive always got nappy bags in my pocket,last week one of my neighbors let there dog out only to poo by my gate [mad].

Bag it up,next time you see her say in your cheeriest voice 'your dog seems to have dropped this from his arse sweetie,I'm sure you can find a bin to pop it into.If he loses any more of it outside my door,don't worry,I will drop it around to your house,I know where you live'.

That will do the trick.

If they caught you posting dog shit through their letter box you might get more than you bargain for, OP are you good at running or fighting?

Yep pass her the poo and explain that your kids keep walking in it. I'd also talk to her parents if she continues not to act irresponsibly. She shouldn't be walking the dog if she can't care for it properly.

agree with keeping things pleasant

Ask her if there is a special reason she lets her dog shit every single day on your property, and that you have your eye on her, and in future, youd appreciate it if she bagged up her dogs shit and put it in a red bin , otherwise you will call the dog warden and she will be issued with a £60 fine each time it happens.

You dont have to scream or be aggressive. Just be assertive.

but its never going to be pleasant. Shes doing the wrong thing. She needs to know that shes been caught, and you dont have to pussyfoot around it.

Not read the whole thread, but I do sympathise, we have the same problem. Some lazy twat lets his dog come in our garden and shit on our front lawn. We have two cars, single drive so one of the cars go on the lawn, and the kids have to avoid dog shit to get in the car. Either that or it's on the verge.

I still haven't been able to catch the culprit, but I would have firm words. I'd def threaten to inform the parents, and the dog warden.

Though, I'd bet the parents don't pick up neither. i walked our dog at that age, and there was no way my parents would have let me out with him without the doggy bags.

Yanbu. My 11yo knows to pick up poo if she takes the dog out.

YANBU to hand her the bag and ask reasonably, if she keeps letting/encouraging the dog to do shits thereafter out of spite then bag them and throw them in their front garden, not letter box.

The one time my cat, who has a corner of my garden dedicated to himself, shat in a neighbours I apologised and told them if he ever (thankfully he hasn't) did it again then to throw it over. If it's fine to do for a cat, which owners have less control over then why not bag and empty into their garden after all dog owners have more control when they can see the shit and ignore it.

chops the duck, it's a shame you don't know when they're there you could leave a hosepipe on the lawn and turn the sprayer on full blast with cold water when you see them to remind the owner that their shits not welcome.

I have my suspicions of who it is, but never been able to catch them in the act. :( Bloody owner should have his dog on a lead, too, so it isn't wandering in people's gardens. I would put a gate on, but we rent and the drive slopes.

Just talk to her when you see her, coming up the path waving a bag of week old shite and then threatening to post it through her letter box will get you a reputation as the local loony or arrested.

JUST TALK TO THE GIRL. No joy speak to her parents.

Of course you can speak to a 12 year old without being agressive or threatening.

If you get no joy with speaking to her or her parents, I would contact the council. They will take an interest as you know who the culprit is.

No to throwing anything in their garden - that is much more likely to escalate the conflict IMO.

"why shouldnt a 12 year old be confronted"

Perhaps because the OP is an adult, she could try communicating first.

If the child doesn't know that they are behaving wrongly, then they don't deserve to be "confronted" by an adult.

I wouldn't recommend following any child home, or watching them daily, tbh.

It wouldn't be "her" front door or garden that you would be throwing the dog dirt into, it would be her parents, who as of yet, do not know anything about this.

Saying you would put it through her letterbox is an empty threat. right?

Try this approach:

'Hi there 12 year old child' I've just noticed that dog has done a poo on my lawn, I don't know if you know this, but dog mess has got all kind of nasty stuff in it and I'd really appreciate it, if you'd clean it up rather than leaving it on my lawn. here's a plastic bag to pick it up with'

Ranting and raving with a bag of shite and/or threatening tio follow a child and post shite through their parent's letterbox isn't the first port of call.