WIBU to leave this party early for another party?

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I'll keep it brief. Friend's baby is turning 1 soon and parents are having a small do at their house. Mainly for the benefit of family and friends getting together, but obviously baby is the most important part of the day.

Anyway, the party lasts 5 hours, seems rather long to me, and I have another friend who is moving very far away, who is having a leaving do the same day (well, evening.) Would I be unreasonable to stay at baby's party maybe 2 or 3 hours out of the 5, then hop on a train for a further 3 hours to make it to my other friend's party!?

It's a lot to squeeze into a day I know, but I love the baby to bits so want to be there, and am equally close to baby's mum and the other friend. Don't want to offend baby's parents, and what if the present opening/cake part is right at the end?

Yes do both I agree.

Nope! Go to the party for a couple of hours and then shoot off to the other party. 5 hours is an awfully long time for d party IMO

I think acceptable although it might be wise to mention to the parents of the 1 year old prior to the party that you can only stay til x o'clock. That may they can be prepared for you leaving if necessary and it should make it easier for you to slip away.

YANBU at all. Remember the baby is one and isn't actually going to notice whether you are there or not. Tell the baby's parents that you can't stay long, turn up with a nice gift, socialise with them for a couple of hours then head off to the other party without a smidgeon of guilt. FFS a one year old will not stay awake for a 5-hour afternoon party...

Leaving do far more important than baby friends first birthday borefest. Sorry, harsh but your real friends are more important than your baby friends. So make an appearance at the first one, for half and hour, make a fuss about having to go quic and then go!

FWIW, I am going to a family do tomorrow but also going to a football match. I am showing up for 15 mins, then clearing off, then coming back a few hours later after the match. If they miss me, we'll, sweet regrets to them!

Thanks! I thought I wasn't BU! I wondered if the 5 hour window was just so family and friends could come and go as they pleased. I would quite happily stay the full 5 hours if I didn't have this other commitment. I had said ages ago that I'd go to baby's party, but his birthday is mid-week so it was going to be arranged on one of the two weekends either side of it. Only found out date today and it just happened to clash. I'd probably arrive at second friend's house between 8.30-9.30pm and be totally knackered, but wanted to still make the effort.

Just say that you'll drop in for a little while but that you will move on after an hour or so. Surely nobody expects people to show up and stay for a 5 hour party?