To hate 'd'h saying 'stop grassing me up' to DS (6yrs)

[devonsmummy]

Every time DS tells me something DH has said or done (that he must know is wrong) DH snaps at DS
'stop bloody grassing me up... Keep trying to get me in trouble'
Last night dd twisted her ankle mucking around so asked for a carry to bed.
As I picked her up DS asked 'd'h can I have a carry too
DH - er no
DS - mum, dad won't carry me up
DH - stop bloody grassing me up will ya!! In a pee'd off tone.
DS - please can you take me up now?
DH - you don't tell me when , I'll decide when!
I was back downstairs & about to pick up DS to carry him up when DH scoops him up and plops him at the top of the stairs without a word.
It's driving me crazy , seems so childlike and now DS has started saying to dd 'stop grassing me up' & he has no idea what it means!!

Is your DH Phil Mitchell?

Haha !

YANBU!
He sounds like a ten year old!

My youngest two dss do that to their Dad! My oh even calls our youngest ds my 'cctv man'.
He normally laughs it off but at times he gets moody, silly old sod

Do you find the DC's play you off against each other?

No I wouldn't say DS plays us off.
Just let's me know when his dads being mean!

For instance if DH has promised to take DS to the park then after making him wait for 3-4 hours decides he's now not taking him (for no reason other than cant be bothered!)

He sounds pleasant

That was the only reason I could think for your DH's behavior, and even that was a stretch.

YANBU. Doesn't sound nice, the saying or the reason behind it. Could you have a chat with DH?

Your DH is an immature twit OP.

you and he need to be one unit - working together to bring up the children. you know that. he doesn't seem to understand. he's trying to make you the 'bad guy', by expecting the children to side with him.

sorry. don't like him at all.

Clearly your DC are learning that it works if you 'tell on' Daddy to Mummy, as it makes Daddy do what you want. If you and your DH want to be a united front you need to get on top of this. You need your DH to grasp that when he does this he is putting himself on a level with the DC and making you the only authority figure', which is unfair on you and really bad for everyone in the long run.