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AIBU?

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To be a little annoyed that DH is coming home early?

23 replies

Jojobells1986 · 04/01/2013 16:29

DH is always late home. Always. He says he'll leave work at 6 & usually doesn't leave until 6.30. His inability to prioritise & plan his time drives me up the wall.

Tonight we're going away & agreed that he'd leave work after his meeting finished at 4. These meetings always run over by at least 20 minutes so I'd factored that into my plan for the day. The meeting only went & finished 20 minutes early, meaning he rang me to say he'd be leaving soon just after I'd put DS down for his nap & climbed into my lovely warm bath for a leisurely soak. Now I've had to cut my bath short & need to run around like a headless chicken getting the last bits sorted before he gets home!

AIBU to think it's very inconsiderate of him to ruin my relaxing bath time? I mean, seriously, how dare he come home sooner than planned so we can go see my family?! It's just rude!

OP posts:
Ahhhcrap · 04/01/2013 16:30

Yanbu leave the bastard!

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 04/01/2013 16:30

Last bits of what sorted? He is your husband, not your boss.

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE · 04/01/2013 16:30

I don't see why you cant just continue with the plan?

WorraLiberty · 04/01/2013 16:31

Why can't you sort the last minute stuff together?

dequoisagitil · 04/01/2013 16:32

I dunno why it has meant you've cut your bath short etc. Surely you could have continued your bath and he could do the running about & final packing?

AmazingBouncingFerret · 04/01/2013 16:33

Why do you have to run around like a headless chicken though?

HJust carry on as normal!

MrsMelons · 04/01/2013 16:34

YABU to not have just stayed in the bath!

SarahWarahWoo · 04/01/2013 16:34

You shouldn't have cut your bath short, get another soak in over the weekend

EuroShagmore · 04/01/2013 16:35

I am also puzzled as to why you can't have your bath and do the running around when he gets home.

Original poster
Jojobells1986 · 04/01/2013 16:35

I meant, like drying my hair! Trust me, if it were things he could do I'd leave them till he got home.

He's just so proud of himself for getting away early as he thinks it means we can get on the road sooner! I am quite tempted to still have lots to do & just insist it would've been done by the time he was supposed to be home. Wink It would be good if we could get going sooner & avoid as much rush hour as possible though!

OP posts:
nickelbabylyinginamanger · 04/01/2013 16:39

i don't see why you need to rush your bath because he's coming home early.
Confused

is he not allowed to see you with wet hair?
Confused

HeadfirstForAMistletoeKiss · 04/01/2013 16:43

Why on earth cut your bath short? I'd never let my husbands actions dictate what I do. Confused

HeadfirstForAMistletoeKiss · 04/01/2013 16:45

Sorry, was this a jokey thread? If you're going out then he's being nice, no?

MrsMelons · 04/01/2013 16:47

you could get him to join you in the bath??

SnapesOnAPlane · 04/01/2013 16:52

Yes it was a jokey thread, though I'm sure she text her husband to get his permission to post it first, no worries my darling miseries.
Have a good trip, Jojo.
Leave the bastard :o

CometAndCupid · 04/01/2013 16:54

I'm really confused Confused

Why did you have to do things before he got home?

GoldPlatedNineDoors · 04/01/2013 16:55

I truly do not see how he has scuppered your plans. I hope this is a joke and you didnt actually get out of the bath - what cant he sort?

nickelbabylyinginamanger · 04/01/2013 16:56

ah, okay.

see, what you should have done was wait till he got back and made him rub your back. Wink

have a lovely trip and miss the traffic :)

EMS23 · 04/01/2013 16:56

YANBU, that would piss me right off!!
It's very 1950's but... My Dad travels for work and quite often will 'surprise' my mum by coming home a day early. To avoid him knowing what an utter slattern she is while he's away she uses 2 tricks - bleach down toilet, wood polish sprayed on dining room table.

House smells freshly cleaned and he comes home to his orderly house and perfect wife!

Startail · 04/01/2013 17:36

I think the OP is joking, that the one time her DH is actually going to be early she had planned for him being late.

Clearly she wants to be ready to leave, not because he's treating her like a 50's wife, but because it's polite when he's tried to help.

I think she actually quite pleased and would like to encourage him being early in future.

My DH works from home, sometimes. I love having him about, but he still gets under my feet and I threaten to send him back to the office.

Rosa · 04/01/2013 17:39

Tell him to call into Sainsburys and do some shopping or something!!!!! YANBU at all !

ErikNorseman · 04/01/2013 19:29

Fgs you moaning myrtles she meant that she didn't want to hang about for ages faffing when they could be on the road, as he H was back earlier than anticipated. Not that she couldn't leave stuff for her husband to do.

maddening · 04/01/2013 19:49

I'd have left a list of things needing doing and had my bath and seen his coming home early as him coming home to help.

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