to be sick of FIL's different new girlfriends?

[FILforsale]

To just summarize the long story, my DP's father is constantly introducing new girlfriends to us. He splits up with one, next week he's got another. I don't really care what he does with women, as long as we don't have to meet every single one of them.

As an example, in our DS's first bday he showed up with a random girl that he met that same week, then he met another and left this one... The thing that is annoying me is that now he's playing with two, so he comes here and talks rubbish about n#1, then brings her home to visit us; talks about private life of n#2, then we meet for dinner... I can't stand this, I feel like my house is a date site, and he always says to our DS 'give a kiss to grandma' which I believe that as well of being disgusting what is he doing, he's confusing our son.

I told DP to tell him to stop and when he can actually stay with one long enough then he can come and introduce her properly, but of course, my partner is used to his father and wouldn't care/ just mock the situation.

IABU / behaving like an old woman? or I am actually right to feel like confronting him?

I know this is not like a big deal or real problem but I honestly need to ask for objective opinions. Thank you.

Why not tell your FIL yourself? You don't have to go through your DH.

At the very very least you can insist your DS in neither made to call them Grandma or kiss them.

At the very very least you can insist your DS in neither made to call them Grandma or kiss them.

Hell yes to the above.

Well I told him not long ago that I didn't like the fact that I had to hear a new different story every week and meet random women every on and on. And DP told him that our DS just has two grandmas (his mum and mine), so he can stop being an idiot.

But I just wanted to know if IABU to ask him to not to come around until he sorts his life out, because is bad if he comes with them, but if he comes alone he still talks about them. Sorry I guess I didn't make myself clear on the post.

His love life is his call. You may not like it, but you don't get a say.

However, he is b vvv u insisting that your kids kiss 'grandma'. What a muppet.

YABU to stop him from coming round, but YANBU to insist none of his girlfriends come with him. That has to stop....especially the grandma comments. Your DH may be used to it but what messages is the FIL giving your DS..

The only unacceptable thing about this scenario - and it's a biggie - is the 'kiss Grandma' thing. They're not Grandma if they've only been around for a week and it's not clever to even joke about it.

Other than that, in your position I'd find your FIL's shenanigans a source of light entertainment...

I think you need to introduce the phrase "this weeks Grandma" to your DS accompanied by a sigh, a tut and a large laugh out loud

Being good humoured and taking the piss slightly is the best response to this IMO..

YABVU to stop him coming around. However I don't think there is any responsibility on you to pretend about your feelings in front of the women though. Just say in front of them. No DS is not going to kiss you because you're the 4th 'Grandma' this month and it's too confusing for him.

FiL might reconsider bringing a sting of strangers around of his own accord

Lol @Lauries, you are all right about not letting him come around I wish I could sometimes and I think I am taking this situation a bit personally, especially because I hate to be fake and be smiling to him when I think that he's behaving like a old clown (relating to the women thing).

Thank you ladies for your replies, made me a bit less bitter about this.

My MIL is like this, and says the same about calling her BF's 'grandad'. I just said 'No, they have a grandad (DP's dad) and until they are around for a while it will stay that way'. She still insists sometimes but I let my feelings known, there's nothing much else we can do.

But please don't stop him coming round, just maybe bar a GF until they've been going out for a certain amount of time?

Maybe we should set them up, they may be kindred spirits

I'd say "no, x only becomes grandma when you get married" that might stop the grandma stuff. I hated kissing extended relatives as a child so don't make my kids do it, they usually prefer just to hug people, a short term girlfriend probably wouldn't be hugged.

Well, would you be upset if your mate or brother changed partners every five minutes, or are you just rattled because you have the perception that mature folks should act with a bit more decorum.?

Can't say it would bother me, other than the grandma comment. But thats easily nipped in the bud.

It's no wonder he can't keep a girlfriend, if he insists on calling them "Grandma" after a week!

We have friend who does this :( Every time we meet him he has a new woman. We see him about once every couple of months. I hate being introduced. We now don't invite him over if a female friend is staying with him or DH sees him alone. YHMSympathies OP.

likelucklove hell that's a brilliant idea!! let's set a date lol

HollyBerryBush I honestly would be annoyed the same if my mate or brother or whatever decided to change girlfriend/boyfriend every week. I just personally don't like the idea of having some random new girlfriend coming along to my house, I don't know anything about them and makes us very uncomfortable.

TBH he stopped this grandma stuff now, because DP had a conversation with him last night... let's see for how long.

Thank you all for your replies.