To make rules for the children only to not keep them myself?

[aaaaagh]

We have Sweetie Saturday - the idea being that it stops the incessant questioning of 'Can I have sweets?' all week and then they can eat as much rubbish as they like on Saturday without asking. They are really good about giving me the sweets they get given by other children at school, for me to keep for them until Saturday. (I am not mean and often let them eat them there and then - but at least it means I have some control). However I eat sweets and chocolate all the time.....ALL the time.

incidentally YABVVVU to use the word 'choccy'

you can buy a quarter of sweets for a pound!
that's quite a lot for kids.

when i was a child, I would buy 1oz and it would last me a couple of days (or more if i hid them)

1 pack of smarties
1 bag of crisps
1 bar of chocolate

that should be what your limits are (not all 3, choose one!)
not eat-all-you-can.

that's the best way to make them binge and therefore be unhealthy about themselves.

have you thought maybe to encourage them otherwise? if they ask for sweets, give them fruit, or make your own as an activity? we used to make toffee and peppermint thins and other sweets.
or make cakes and flapjacks with them?
try to make it more about the experience than the end result.

Just checking here....if I take the 'sticking to the rules' to its obvious conclusion, I should;
Put my lights out by 8.30 on a school night. (this one I would gladly obey!)
Not go to the corner shop on my own.
Ask before I make a phone call.
Not have a sleepover in term time (May prove a problem with DH!)
and not watch anything on YouTube without checking with my mum first.
I think I'm going to go with the people who say I'm not being unreasonable! They can eat what they like when they're adults! Until then they do as they're told.

YANBU

I swear it my DC's are not allowed to. They are young adults now but I have never heard any of them swear ever. I like to think I am showing them how naff swearing is.

When they were younger I would mostly obey the rules I gave the DC's but not always.

I think the crux of this is are they house rules or are they rules specifically aimed at the DC. We don't have generic rules and so I can't be a hypocrite. We do have bedtimes, teatimes, limits on computer time etc. But then we impose the same types of rules on ourselves as adults.

I do think saying no sweets until Saturday and then eating them yourself is hypocritical

nickelbabylyinginamanger. - in a London shop £1 buys one chocolate bar (60-70p) and one other small thing! My kids eat fruit until it comes out of their ears...DTD1 has to be stopped otherwise she'd eat the fruit bowl too. Baking is the other problem! DTD1 wants to be a baker - she bakes on her own now and we have to eat it! How many biscuits do I let them eat? They don't keep and if I'm not to waste them.....

Simple policy in our house 'those who pay the bills, make the rules'!

That said, Xmas apart, DH and I only eat sweets in front of the DCs if they are also eating them. We wait til they are in bed to pig out!

As for coke, if we go for a meal, I have no qualms about having a coke but telling the DCs they can choose from apple or orange juice or maybe even Lemonade.

Re. manner-related rules such as not being rude, we all try to stick to them although I shout too much and DH apparently has no control of his burps/farts !

So those that say the OP is unreasonable don't do anything unless the children are allowed to do it too?
Really?

For heaven's sake, we all have rules for the children. How we behave as adults is up to us and an entirely different thing.

One of the perks of being grown-up.

What nannyogg just said. I limit my children's screen time as well, I don't impose that rule on myself!

Not good, OP.

BooCanary

..... so only taxpayers should be allowed to break the national speed limits

(wild generalisation, but you see where I am gong with this .... )

Children can easily distinguish rules that are made for their own good from rules that are made for their parents' convenience you know. If you want your children to respect you, think long and hard before you mistreat them...

not what you asked but sweetie sunday is an awful idea,wen your not there when they are older theywill think "sweetie sunday?fuck that shit!" and eat sweets all the time and get massivley obese.

when not wen.

I'm not sure about that. I think it is a very good idea to inculcate in your DC the idea that treats should only happen sometimes. I also think that treats should be moderated (so am against "all you can scoff" Sweetie Saturdays). You don't want to leave your DCs so frustrated that they eat chocolate and sweets like crazy the minute they leave home.

you can freeze biscuits

Avuncular - I am not intending to apply our house rule to the whole of society, so fear not .

I think I'm going to go with the people who say I'm not being unreasonable! They can eat what they like when they're adults! Until then they do as they're told.

Perfect parenting IMO

I think YANBU to have separate rules for your kids than for you. As long as you don't eat sweets in front of the kids when they aren't allowed, I can't see the problem.

I would add the observation, that despite you having the same rule as a kid, it hasn't really stuck as an adult, so maybe it's not really necessary, especially if they normally ask anyway before scoffing a treat.

YANBU. I drink gin, my children do not.

There are different rules for children and adults. Likewise, as a teacher I do not have to wear school uniform.

Of course YANBU - as you have answered for yourself in your post at 13:21.