To want my dad to phone before he pops round?

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My dad and his gf are lovely but they keep popping round uninvited. Mainly to see dd . At first this was lovely but it has become a bit irritating as it happens so often. I just feel like my dad should call first before paying us a visit? He only lives down the road but it makes me feel like a child again.

YANBU. I absolutely hate people popping around uninvited. Just ask him to call first, and if he doesn't then the next three or four times he calls round don't answer the door, he'll get the message.

YANBU, just ask him if he can call first.

Have the same thing with my parents! Today DM turned up unannounced and used her key to let herself in! I told her this was not on. She had a massive huff and later apologised. I don't think she'll do it again!

We've just moved much closer to my parents are are setting out ground rules at the mo. So no key being given, we have a chain on the door so they couldn't just walk in unannounced anyway, always make sure we phone them first, ring their bell, etc. My DM always seems confused but its OK because my DF got the message very early on!

Next time could you just answer the door and say 'sorry this is not a good time' or you could totally brazen it out by answering the door in a dressing gown looking dishevelled and they'll feel so awkward they'll never call round again!

Oh god no, my MIL had a key, they lived out of town. She'd let herself in and make a coffee, which was fine. But after ringing and no answer she let herself in. She must have known we were there, cars in the drive etc. Ds was napping and we were having a little Sunday afternoon fun. she never let herself in again
He really needs to call first and check

Arrgghh yes, used to have this problem. Mum and dad moved into same street as me. Rural area and no garages so everyone would always know who was in or out by the presence of their car out front, or not. I didn't give a key to avoid the OPs problem.

However f i didn't answer the door when mum knocked or my car was not there when she walked by, she'd always demand to know where i'd been!

"I called round but there was no answer/your car wasn't there this morning/yesterday/whenever ................ ???" Looooong expectant pause.

and if i wasn't forth coming -

"Where were you?" in an irritated tone, as if i had no right to not be there.

This went on for years Drove me mad!

Set some boundaries asap OP.

You're not being unreasonable at all. I insist my family phone before coming round, keys or not.