To think there is no good reason so he can stay in his room today

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My DS was booked to do a football camp today, 9-3. He is football mad, and it is run by coaches from his favourite team. He has done similar days before. We got there and he had a massive meltdown and refused to go. He has now been confined to his room for the day with no screens.
I have had to cancel a very rare pampering appointment as a result, am I being mean? He was ill before Christmas but admits he is not ill today, just doesn't want to go. Bah!

How old is he?

if he loves football then to be honest, I would have just left him there with the coaches and gone...how old is he? Did he want to initially or was it something you booked and then told him about.

What a shame, he probably would have had a whale of a time !!

I think you need to figure out why he didn't want to go.

Friendship/bullying issues perhaps?

I think you're being a bit harsh. What's his behaviour usually like? How old is he? There will be a reason, even if he can't/wont tell you at this stage.
Did he see some other kids there that he's wary of?
Does one of the coaches upset him?
I'd be more concerned than angry I think.

My ds did this when he was 5. We were also angry but didn't punish him - just said we're not taking you again until you explain. Turns out he was scared of main coach who was fab and funny but also gruff and shouty. My ds was shy back then and couldn't cope!!

He is almost 9, he wouldn't have known anyone, but on the way there he was telling me about the friends he made last time, and how good he had been at scoring goals.
He was getting really worked up and saying he would just follow me if I left. I haven't been angry about it, just asking him to explain as I don't understand why he wouldn't want to go. Maybe it is just a shyness/tiredness issue, he had a late night for NYE. He is just sitting in his room playing the guitar and Lego just now.
I am more disappointed he is missing out than cross, my treat can be rescheduled when he is back at school. We had told him about it when we booked, but that was ages ago.

YANBU . Well done you for teaching him that there are consequences for bad behaviour. Hopefully he will learn his lesson.

A whole day sounds a bit harsh!