to be upset and worried when DH says 'one day you will come home and find the puppy not here'

[punter]

Ok we have had a busy day, son, wife and grandchildren(3) arrived for the afternoon, all had bad colds and were noisy and everywhere. I had to keep puppy in crate or outside as the youngest is a newborn. I made the kids their tea, cups of tea and cake for grown ups whilst men tried to set up apple tv. Then after they left I made a roast chicken dinner. Puppy back in with us, slightly hyper then DH says the above. I have left him to the tv, what a horrid thing to say.

Be careful, he could be measuring what you'll put up with.

My mother did get rid of my Puppy while I was out at work. I came home and she'd sold him.

She also cut off DS1's hair after I expressly told her not to.

She wonders why I don't trust her.

Punter - he doesn't sound very nice :(

I could not and would not live with someone who would say that (if not said in jest). If you aren't prepared to leave him, I would re-home the puppy, because it's not a risk you want to take is it? He hasn't hit/hurt you physically - but you aren't a vulnerable puppy...

Did he want a dog? We got a puppy last year at DH's insistence. He was a spirited little thing, and bloody gorgeous too, but in the end we gave him to the police and he's a drug dog now. Basically he was very intelligent and demanding and I think because I didn't really want a dog yet I was resentful of the carnage he created and how he would always listen to dh but never me. Maybe your dh is in a similar position. I can honestly say though that giving our dog away was utterly heartbreaking and we have s photo of him and his handler in our dining room, so even if he was unhappy at the situation it's not at all the right way to deal with it. Good you're ok.

*hope you're ok

YANBU to be upset. If this is part of a pattern, perhaps you should look into getting some outside advice.

Making veiled threats against your beloved puppy is really low.