To genuinely believe that 99.85% of other people's children are easier than mine.

[mrsmindcontrol]

3 DS, me DP and his DD decided to take dog on walk today by local river. DS1 has 6 or 7 major meltdowns within moments due to trivial things (he has ADHD with major anger issues). DS2 lives in world of his own so has to be constantly watched to ensure not falling in river, wandering into path of truck etc. DS3 is toddler from hell & likes to repeatedly screech 'SHUTUP' and hit. Was just sooooo exhausting & typical of everyday life. Other families always look so serene and happy. I always end up wondering why I bother taking my monsters boys anywhere. Sigh.
I promise you, I'm way more exhausted by my children than any of you lot out there are by yours (disclaimer: excluding those of you dealing with physical/SN issues of course)

Anyone who thinks girls are easier needs to meet my niece...

Ah, but Kitties, she won't be as hard work as my boys. It is simply not possible.

Justabout - 3, how did that happen??

mrsmindcontrol, today, I left my parents house and walked towards the car in a layby. I could clearly hear all 3 of my girls screaming (DD1 is 7 with complex SN, DD2 is 5 and ?SN, DD3 is 3 and er, 3 ).

As I walked past another house, I glanced at the window. There, a couple were together cradling the head of a baby, possibly 8-12 weeks old, staring adoringly at him/her.

I laughed and thought 'you wait....'

I'm under no illusion about girls. They can be shrill, bossy, moody and devious. Much like DS1.

You're deluded if you think girls, en mass, are easier than boys, en mass. It's utterly down to the individual as you well know, given the differences between your DS2 compared with the others.

Give me my (NT) DS over my best friend's (NT) DD aaaaaany day of the week.

But aside from that, I feel I'm hard done by on an hourly basis and my two - nearly 4 and 2 - are really pretty good kids. I can't imagine what it is like for many on here and am, frankly, in awe.

Sorry, my DS is 1000 times easier to handle than my DD, her mania stems from her anxieties.
DS breaks everything he touches... but that is accidentally, he is heavy handed, he never means to destroy things, DD on the otheer hand

Other people whose know D's behave are either liars or don't see the bad behaviour

Ds1 is 4.5 constantly talks in a whingey voice, lies about all sorts, refuses to eat and lives off a bowl of cereal and a few spoons of other food a day and is really horrible to the middle boy. He strangles him, kicks, punches, shoves and drags him around the house and will not go to sleep before 10.30/11pm.

Then I need eyes in the back of my head with ds2 who is one as he's discovered he can climb up cupboards.

Hope you're OK, hope you're all OK.

A friend of mine of course has perfect textbook children and she delights in telling me about their perfect behaviour and how they slept through the night from being x weeks old etc.

Glad to hear its not just me being shouty Mum!!

hey op...it isn't that your kids are harder it's just that you are a crap parent! I bet you didn't even open the right parenting books....

I just got back from xmas with parents and 18mo DD's 2yo cousin and could not stop thinking about how much better behaved he was than her. Just an endless stream of embarrassment and angst. And then when we left my dad said something about how terrified I must be that DD will become a horrible brat like DN in the next 6 months... I was like all the way home.

I so get you op. other people always look so relaxed.
(dd has cp)

Yes, they will be easier, as most children don't have SN.

Still, I prefer to have my DS than one of my nephews, who requires constant attention.