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AIBU?

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to be sobbing... I decided to stop BF today.

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HongKongPooey · 01/01/2013 19:19

I'd cut it down to just the evening "feed to sleep" and had been continuing with that up to now (DD is 10 months). Thought i'd be relieved as I never really enjoyed it as such, but the tears are rolling down my face as I'm rocking her off to sleep without boob in mouth!

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stuffthenonsense · 01/01/2013 20:31

I hit 40 at the weekend. It was fine, I'm still young at heart. Although my three teens took delight jn reminding me otherwise haha. Have to admit though that I want just one last baby, and the clock is ticking. I might join you on the ttc thread. (Wonders if hongkongpooey is local?)

DeWe · 01/01/2013 20:43

I managed to conceive dd2 when dd1 was still having 1 bf a day. We were trying for a few months with me bf twice a day, but when I cut down to once a day I conceived first month.

Kalisi · 01/01/2013 20:52

Oh bless you. Yadnbu! My DS decided on his own accord at 8 months that he preffered a bottle. Broke my heart a little!

festivelyfocussed · 01/01/2013 21:10

Ah poor thing.
Firstly: second what Nickel said.
Secondly. I too am pretty ancient and am now 8 months pregnant after conceiving whilst I was still bf ing my first child (well, IYSWIM!!!)
Whatever you decide these feelings will improve.
Good luck with your next pregnancy.

BertieBotts · 01/01/2013 21:17

From our LLL group it seems that in most cases a longish gap is enough to kickstart your menstrual cycle back into gear and so bring your fertility back, might be worth trying if you want?

5dcsandallthelittlesantahats · 01/01/2013 21:20

can I join you my baby is 11 months and down to three feeds a day, I was feeding dc4 when i got pregnant with her so its been years of constant feeding. I have a skin infection on my nipple which I have had for months I have had so many different creams and potions for it but it just wont go away. It doesnt hurt but I feel wrong knowing its there so I have decided to cut down and stop now. I normally feed until 18 months or so but I just feel enough is enough now. I have been so sad about it :(. but I think its the right thing for me. Not sure dd will agree tomorrow when I try to stop the lunchtime feed though.

cutegorilla · 01/01/2013 21:21

From years of being around parenting forums I'd say stopping BFing can be very emotional whenever you do it. I've seen similar messages from Mums of tiny babies and Mums of toddlers still being fed and everything in between. Well done on 10 months . You'll feel better about it very soon. Good luck with ttc!

BabylonElf · 01/01/2013 21:27

DS is 8 mths and BFing to sleep as I write this!

I'm dreading stopping tbh, he's my last baby according to DH and I don't ever want this precious time with him to stop

poocatcherchampion · 01/01/2013 21:31

I'm dreading stopping but ttc too. Dd is 9 mo and today only had 2 feeds. One af 5 weeks ago but test says no. Its so tough!

VisualiseAHorse · 01/01/2013 21:36

10 months!

BlackholesAndRevelations · 01/01/2013 21:43

SarahWarahWoo- did you HAVE to say "Bitty"?! YABU.

OP- I was emotional when I stopped feeding DS at 11 months but the last couple if times I offered, he sank his little teeth in and laughed at me (evil child!) so I didn't feel that bad after all!

ThisIsMummyPig · 01/01/2013 21:44

I cried when I stopped feeding both my girls, especially with the second one because I knew it would be something I would never do again. They are two and four now, and I actually don't look back at breastfeeding fondly.

As others have said, your relationship isn't just about nourishment of the body.

MoetEtPantsOn · 01/01/2013 21:51

I remember feeling like you, OP, on the last feed with DD2. I couldn't quite bear to stop that day so thought I'd give it one more day. The next morning, I was all emotional, announced to the little 7 month bundle that this was it and couldn't get her to latch on for love nor money. She was looking all around the room, smiling at her sister and generally "acting the clown". I gave her a bottle in the end that morning and actually have happy memories of stopping, since she cheered me so. It really is a tiny part of your lifelong bonding process.

Damash12 · 01/01/2013 22:47

Totally remember that feeling and the tears even though like you I didn't really enjoy it. I promise you it will pass especially when you are how much they enjoy there bottle. What you need to worry about is the rocking to sleep ... Eeek could prove even harder to stop if not stopped now.

Piemistress · 01/01/2013 22:52

Awwww, I felt the same! It's horrible isn't it! My last feed to go was the morning one. I was back at work and was always late and DS liked to have a good feed and cuddle with me as it was our special time. Already sad at the thought of stopping BF DD as I know there won't be any more babies after her :(

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