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Original poster

Am i being unseasonable to tell my dd,17, that until she stops farting and burping that i will not insure her on my car??!!!

38 replies

Geranium3 · 01/01/2013 18:32

I,ve just flipped today, dd,17, lounges around and seems to do non stop loud farts and burps. I'm no prude but she knows i don,t like it, i laugh along with the occassional rip but for nearly a year i,ve asked her to stop and show a little respect...... to no avail.She just cheeks me and carries on!!! I've tried ignoring her, she doesn,t even say sorry now. I know it sounds trivial and some of you will say it's fine by you but not for me!
Anyway just told her no insurance for her to learn to drive on my car, i am paying for weekly driving lessons, until she stops! May have done the trick though as she has gone off in a silent huff to her room, where she can fart and burp to her heart's delight!
But am i being an unseasonable mum??!!

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GrimmaTheNome · 01/01/2013 18:38

YANBU. If she wants to do something adult like driving, which requires above all things consideration of other people, she should show that she's an adult capable of consideration.

EuphemiaInExcelsis · 01/01/2013 18:39

YANBU Grin

No Farting in Reception Rooms/Kitchen seems like a reasonable house rule to me!

LeChatRouge · 01/01/2013 18:39

YANBU. Does she drink a lot of fizzy drinks?

Iggly · 01/01/2013 18:41

YANBU

That s disgusting quite frankly. What the hell is she eating?!

Original poster
Geranium3 · 01/01/2013 18:43

Thanks grimma, i,ve been trying for weeks to think of a suitable consequence

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PeggyCarter · 01/01/2013 18:44

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Shakirasma · 01/01/2013 18:45

Depends if she is doing it on purpose. I can't burp deliberately but I also can't stop it if one comes up. dH however, can and does do it on purpose to wind me up and that is vile.

I don't think anyone can fart on purpose, but it can be done discretely. I have suffered trapped wind too badly to ever hold one in for anybody but I wouldn't draw attention to it either, eg lifting a cheek is just plain rude.

soontobeburns · 01/01/2013 18:48

YABU tbh I thoughg this was a joke thread. Everyone farts and burps and it cant be helped.
Lock her in your room if you dont wanna be exposed to it (joke) but seriously why are you punishing her? By stopping her driving you are just decreasing her job opportunities and independence to leave your home.

Original poster
Geranium3 · 01/01/2013 18:48

Phew i'm relieved that i'm not coming across as an uptight mum.
Le chat, no she hardly ever drinks fizzy, juice, milk or water.
Iggly, her diet is fine, just think she has got into the habit of doing it, but surprisingly she manages to refrain when her friends are around!!
Yes i think it is a reasonable house rule ,euphemia

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Original poster
Geranium3 · 01/01/2013 18:51

of course i know everyone farts etc but dd doesn,t have to do it right next to us all the time, she can hold it in when her friends are here, just basic manners in my mind!

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KellyEllyChristmasBelly · 01/01/2013 19:02

Isn't your home a place where you should be able to be relaxed enough to be able to let rip? Maybe she has a gas problem. I think the punishment doesn't really fit the crime here IMO.

ImperialSantaKnickers · 01/01/2013 19:05

YANBU. If she can behave for her friends she can do it for her mum. Love Grimma's justification for punishment fitting the crime!

yousmell · 01/01/2013 19:06

If she is farting lots maybe she is gluten sensitive?

comedycentral · 01/01/2013 19:58

Well she controls it in front of her friends because it's good manners. It sounds to me like she doesn't respect you and your home at all. Yes we all burp and fart, but it's polite to at least fart in the bathroom or not in front of others imo.

Original poster
Geranium3 · 01/01/2013 20:21

thanks for all your replies, much appreciated.
Judging by most of your comments i am not an unseasonable mum !

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oldpeculiar · 01/01/2013 20:43

I'll have to try that with DH!

5dcsandallthelittlesantahats · 01/01/2013 21:28

It depends really - if shes doing it in a loud comical way (ie like my BIL does when drunk) then YANBU.

If she is doing it because she has to (which everyone does) then yabu. Its all very well holding it in when people are there for a little bit but if she did it all the time then surely she would end up with stomach pains - or wait - is that just me....

Doilooklikeatourist · 01/01/2013 21:32

We haven't insured DS on my car because it's too ruddy expensive !

PurpleCrazyHorse · 01/01/2013 22:37

I think you're right. Driving a car is an adult and responsible thing to do, she should at least be behaving in an adult and responsible way. Either apologising for farting/burping, seeking some sort of help if it's a diet thing, or indeed just going out of the main reception room.

Seriously, if my mum was paying for me to be insured on her car when I was learning to drive, then I would have done anything at all in gratitude.

ChunkyMonkeyMother · 01/01/2013 22:41

But farting and burping is HILARIOUS! My DS finds it very funny and so do I, although we both say pardon me.

He's 3 and I'm very childish though (plus I pay for my own insurance)

nicefleece · 01/01/2013 22:43

OP I salute you. Fantastic.

TheFallenNinja · 01/01/2013 23:58

Good for you. Your house, your rules.

shrimponastick · 02/01/2013 00:02

Yanbu. If she wants adult privileges then she needs to act in am adult manner.

I think burping and particularly darting are gross. Not funny at all.

So there. ;)

tethersjinglebellend · 02/01/2013 00:02

Pull my finger.

mrsjay · 02/01/2013 00:08

yab a bit of both she has wind and lets it go she is being really rude in showing no manners though, my dd is the same she is vile sometimes really disgusting and thinks its funny, not sure about the insurance though maybe will let her see you are not laughing,