To not wish anyone a happy new year

[bollywoodfan]

Suffering from a severe bout of new year blues - don't want to phone anyone & can't be bothered to respond to messages. Just feel like its another day & don't want to pretend to be happy when I feel like shite.

YANBU not to wish to speak to people and pretend to be cheerful when your not.

Far better to ring and chat when your in the mood.

However, the sun is actually shinning here and this does put me in the mood to say-

Happy New Year BollywoodFan

Why do u feel like shite Bollywood . Are you unwell or just a little down

crappy new year!

(I don't really wish you a crappy new year, hope it's a good one)

I have got a bit of a cold & have got a headache so feeling a bit unwell. Also going to be made redundant this year and can't actually think of anything that I am looking forward to. God I sound like a right misery guts!

can I join you bollywood I am feeling weepy and sorry for myself today. Had a row with DH just before midnight so feel like new year has begun in a crap manner and feel like I have nothing to look forward to.

I haven't wished anyone a happy new year bar ds and dp, close family bereavement mid november and I dragged myself through the festivities the best I could. not one friend has been to see me or asked how am doing but have had influx of happy New year messages despite. cba replying the way I feel today, so yanbu .

New Year always makes me miserable.

Don't bother to make believe you're happy if you're not. Do some physical exercise then veg out and wait for the second week in January. That's always better.

I've replied to the texts I've had, not called my parents yet. I hear you tho. I feel grumpy and miserable and fed up too.
To be fair noone has called me.
We had a row this morning :(

glad its not just me glitternanny have you made up?

If it is any consolation I have always gone on to bigger and better things when I have been made redundant in the past (5 times in 5 years). So I will wish you a happy, healthy and prosperous new year in the hope your cold disappears soon.

I am with you. I hate NY its a time for reflection and I look back and usually feel great dissapointment in myself and the way that yet again life is not going the way I want it to and then feel more apathy about how the hell I will struggle to make the changes to make it the way I want. I fail every sodding year. I strongly suspect that on this day in 2014 I will be feeling exactly the same as I did on this day last year.

I have empahy with anyone struggling with depression.

However i was sat with my mother in Clatterbridge (cancer hospital) yesterday, some people where starting to complain about the wait when a girl of around 8 (patient) walked through the radiation suite, it shut everyone up.

There are enough adverts on television showing children sleeping rough and mums who have to give their one month old babies pond water and rice.

Sorry but we need get things into perspective in the West, at least most of us have the ability to make out life better, change our way of thinking and have choices.

Probably when I'm finished with uni I'll start doing cards again, but not for Christmas, for the New Year. It's something everyone gets really! I don't feel excited about it but I like that it's something special but still secular and common to most.

Oh Birds
Very true.

I hate NY its a time for reflection and I look back and usually feel great dissapointment in myself and the way that yet again life is not going the way I want it to and then feel more apathy about how the hell I will struggle to make the changes to make it the way I want. I fail every sodding year. I strongly suspect that on this day in 2014 I will be feeling exactly the same as I did on this day last year.

I feel exactly like this. I need to change but don't know how. I, too, detest New Year and can't bear to utter 'Happy New Year' to anyone. I mean, it's no different to yesterday, is it? Same shit, different day.

"I feel exactly like this. I need to change but don't know how."

It starts with a change in thinking and attitude, it's just about finding what works for you, for me it's Buddhism.

There are some good self help books/on line about with different strategies.

I haven't replied to any of the texts or rang anyone yet either.
New Year has started off pretty shite, I made a total tit of myself last night and my new bf isn't talking to me. I'm flat stony broke, probably going to lose my house in a few months and generally pretty shit.

Fuck the new year

Yanbu. I'm going to try to be more selfish this year. Therefore I don't care if anyone else has a happy new year

Crappy NY here. Had huge row with DH after he came home with a massive hideous 55" tv that I detest. Kids not happy with me either 'cause they love it too.

There is so much pressure on us to have a HAPPY NEW YEAR!! It IS just another day. For some it is a time to reflect and a time to try to implement changes. Sometimes small changes make a big difference. A ridiculous small change I need to make (and please excuse the triviality) is to clean my kitchen at night so that I don't start the day with a filthy kitchen. Now that won't seem much to some, but to me it will make a big difference as I work from home as a childminder.

Maybe, for those of you feeling blue, maybe thinking of one small change could help?

Sorry if I am out of line. I don't mean to sound precious.

soggysummer....me too.

and im sorry, Birdsgottafly but, know what you're saying but those of us with depression (and no one knows what its like unless you have it) feel bad enough and dont think we already feel guilty about all the stuff in the news/tv/charities and wish we could do something to help.

some of us just are this way through no fault of our own.