I'll try to keep this short ...
I'm doing a party again tonight for the fourth NYE in a row. My friend was going to do it this year but decided her village is too quiet for a proper party (even though she's detached) so it's kind of up to me again if I want to have all my good friends around me at new year. We all go back years.
Anyway, she lives a half hour drive away from me and has two children aged 2 and 5.
Another family live 2 hours away so I've said they can stay the night with their 3 year old as they have furthest to go back. So a fortnight ago I told quiet village friend that we couldn't put them up this time round because we'd have no room. She was clearly quite put out so I talked to DH and worked out a way we could squeeze the four of them in because I didn't want her NOT to come as it's already a smaller gathering than usual and we'd miss them. I did this reluctantly not least because I've just had 14 for Christmas and am tired.
Anyway, I told everyone start time is 8pmish but at around 4 this afternoon she texted to say could they all arrive earlier at about 6.30. I texted back no sorry we won't be ready (I was working at 5am today and needed a nap apart from anything else which she knows). Anyway I got no text back from her and I'll bet she's got the hump again.
It's ruining my mood and my good will. I have a knot in my stomach partly through feeling guilty for not being able to accommodate but partly feeling she's taking the piss a bit and should either fit in with what we are doing or stay at home.
DH says I am making a fuss over nothing but I can't remove this knot in my stomach and guests are due any minute.
So .... AIBU?