aibu about NYE plans?

[BethaneyBlueberry]

About a month ago we as a group of friends were discussing plans for NYE. It was mentioned that we could do it at someones house. I volunteered mine, but it was wasn't me who would be hosting the party, as in everyone would bring food and drink (I was just providing the venue)

We go out for drinks on Christmas eve. One of the friends who is generally the organiser of the group says I thought of a new plan for NYE. We can still go to Bethany's house but then I think at 11 we should come here for drinks.

The room we were going to use at my house I decided to use the weekend to clean it and it's so full of storage over Christmas that (maybe unfairly) I cannot be bothered to spend hours sorting for people to now come over for just 3 hours for them to leave and me to be left with a huge mess.

I text my friend on Saturday and said - sorry the room is full of storage and it won't be cleared by Monday. I think the new plan should be just go straight out to the bar and spend the night there?

She replied with ok, can you text everyone else to see if they will host it instead?

• Firstly I'm annoyed that she changed the plan in the first place, secondly if it's that important to her she could host it at her and thirdly why should I have to go around and ask everyone else if they will host it?

I do realise that it was unfair of me to cancel, but for the reasons I said above I do feel justified.

But aibu?

YABU. Why didn't you say something at the time, i.e. on Christmas Eve when it was suggested.

yabu, whats wrong with everyone coming round yours for 3 hours before going out?

Will you be going out with them? Or will they descend on you, eat all the food, make a mess and then bugger off?

manicbmc yes I would be going out with them.

But yeah they also descend on me, eat and drink and make a mess and then all leave at around 11.

Won't they make less mess by going to bar at 11? You were always going to have to clean up after?

Sounds alright to me.

Are you just miffed they don't want to stay in at yours? I used to like to be out & about at 12 pre dc so I had a few parties and we would go out about 11 ish.

I'm confused otherwise they will al descend on you leave a mess and leave god knows when, but that's ok?

I think you can't really expect to have a 'party' in your house but not be the host of it. Plus you'd have to tidy the room if the plans whether the plans had changed or not.

Yabu, for all reasons listed by everyone else. And if you are cancelling on them at such a late time then of course you should help to find another solution, especially if you are still intending to spend the night with them, just not at yours.

If you are going out too, then make a few moves to start having a quick tidy before you go and hope someone mucks in a bit. Then you get a bit of a feed and have a drink and also get to go out and have fun.

YABabitU really. It's not like the plans have changed a great deal.

YAbvu - you volunteered to have it at yours then cancelled for no good reason at last minute and expect someone else to sort it out for you?! 3 hours is still quite a long time and bringing their own drinks would save everyone a LOT of money instead of having to buy at the pub all night. I can totally understand wanting to go to the pub for midnight and perhaps they would have all gone back to yours again afterwards.

So...a venue is needed, YOU cancelled too late so YOU sort it out. It's not like you were ill or something, you are just being awkward and childish about it. Sorry if that sounds harsh but I think your friend is being very reasonable not getting cross with you.

YABU. You sound a bit dog in the manger about this. You arranged to have the party at your house but seem to have cancelled out of pique rather than for any good reason. Surely 3 hours is plenty of time to enjoy yourselves and if you are going out to the bar afterwards yourself, I don't really see what the problem is. It's not as if you'll be left home alone like Cinderella while everyone disappears off to have fun.

It'd have been far better to sort this on Christmas Eve. Not wait until NYE when everyone has presumably made plans that involve going to yours.

YAB, you should have said something on Christmas Eve if you were unhappy about the change in plans. This is far too late.

Please update, OP. I don't remember any other so completely unreasonable questions recently.

Question, not questions...