to be cross with inlaws.

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Ds who is almost 6 still wears a pull up at night. Sil and mil know/saw this and both started the ".... is 4 and doesn't wear a nappy at night". Aibu to be cross about this. I know its not ideal him still being in pull up but i understand its still within normal range. Plus this is hardly going to help.
Aibu

DS1 was dry at night before he was reliably dry through the day (around 3.5).

DS2 is still in nappies at night (at 5) and mostly dry in the day - when we remind him every 2h to have a wee. Or then there are days like today where he got through 3 changes :)

They're all different and reach different milestones at different ages. As long as he's more or less dry by 8 (or when he wants to go to a sleepover!) does it matter?

Really dislike competition parenting.

Is this their oldest grandchild? I think grandparents tend to forget what "normal" is and also not to understand how times have changed.

My parents went on and on about DS still being in nappies so "late". In fact he was out of nappies by 2y2m old. He is their oldest grandchild. By the time they'd had 5 more grandchildren - all of whom were out of nappies much later they had worked out to keep their mouths shut.

Dd is the oldest. She is the golden girl who was dry day and night by 3. This is of course the same mil who told ds that daddy and auntie d were dry at 18 months. This was when he was 4 and still having accidents during day.

Do you know, I wouldn't even get into a conversation with them about it. It's none of their business , and if they are bitchy enough to make comments like that you really don't want to share that sort of personal information. Don't lose sleep about them, you know how you feel about the situation and that's all that counts.
Gosh some people !

Please don't let them get to you. I used to do the 'lifting technique' with my children too.

I think your ILs should butt out and stop being so unsupportive. There, I can't believe I said that! :) (but I did and I meant it too)

YANBU god I hate it when people say stuff like this! Not only is it NOT going to help getting a small child out of pull ups there just is no need for it at all. It's totally normal for a child this age to still not be dry at night. Having a 4 year old who is dry or not dry at night is no proof of how good or bad a parent is or how advanced the child is.

And yes my MIL also raved on about how she got her DD dry at 12 months old apparently this proves she is to motherhood what David Beckham is to football.

IGNORE. Potty training etc is a horrendously competitive sport as far as I can see, almost on a par with walking. I had a friend who set her heart on having her daughter out of nappies full stop before she was 18 months old - whenever she came to visit she was laden with spare clothes, potties and nappies and could never settle down as she was running after her child either with the potty or dry clothes. It was an absolute nightmare having her round in the end. She was disparaging of my very laid back attitude about DS3 who I didn't even start waving a potty at until he was 2, and when he wasn't interested left it for another 6 months. However, once he'd decided nappies weren't for him we were done and dusted in a few weeks.......

None of their business, you carry on doing what suits your family best!