Idiot Oh

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My First post in AIBU

Ok so my oh went to work at 10am this morning & was supposed to finish at 4 , Spoke to him around 1 & he said he was almost finished at work .
It gets to 6pm & he is still not home , can't contact him as his phone is dead , So I rang work to see if he is still there & was told he had left a few hours ago at which point I ring round family to see if he has gone to see any of them & he hasn't , My Ds is worried as he knows Daddy is always home before it goes dark & was getting himself in to a right state & I was trying my best to reassure him when his dad finally gets in from work his face is covered in blood and had obviously been drinking .
Asked what he was playing at & said he had stayed behind at work for a 'few' drinks & had fallen off his bike on his way home .
Git him cleaned up (the slightest nick n he bleeds profusively).
My family & Oh wreckon AIBU for been Major pissed off at how he has behaved as I genuinely don't know

Oops pressed send to soon .
I would not of had a problem at all if he had let me know so I could explain to Ds & on top of that his work lied to me .
I am beyond furious

I'd be fuming!

Telling you he is going out and coming home when expected(ish) = fine
Telling you he is going out and doesn't know when coming home = fine
Coming home in a state when he's told you he's going out = annoying

Not telling you, letting you worry for hours, being uncontactable and then coming home a bleeding mess, not to mention taking risks cycling while drunk = really really fucking stupid, thoughtless, dangerous git.

Do you usually call him during the day and start fretting & upsetting your DS if you can't contact him for being a few hours late? Yes he should have probably sent word that he would be late home but your reaction seems disproportionate.

its bad.

No he just rang to check in with me as Ds has been ill , I didn't let Ds see that I were worried , he is 4 & knows when his dad is due home

CogitO op said she spoke to him, we don't know who called who, I also don't know what makes you think op was upsetting her ds? Mine miss daddy if he isn't in by bedtime, they want to know where he is if he isn't in.

It was an oversight on his part not to tell you, and pretty poor behaviour.

It was a complete overreaction on your part to start phoning around after such a short amount of time. As for involving your DS - how old is he? Why didn't you just say that daddy would be home late?

Did you panicked reaction rub off on your son? Or is he usually very anxious? He might benefit from talking to a doctor if that is the case.

How is her reaction disproportionate? He said he was nearly finished but was then uncontactable once he was late. I'd have been concerned too. And she had every need to worry - he got pissed, got someone to lie for him, cycled home (illegally) and injured himself. He could have had the decency to say he was stopping back

I meant that in a nice way! I had bad childhood anxiety and it's much harder to battle it now I'm an adult.

My Ds has AS so notices & worries about everything , I rang family because he said he had almost finished at 1 & then at 6 there was still no sign of him

Can't believe people think this is OK - I wouldn't dream of doing this to DH and I wouldn't expect him to behave in this way. [shakes head sadly]