DH had a serious illness some years ago, which completely changed his ppersonality from being life and soul of party to someone who finds social occaisons very difficult. Therefore, my life has changed too, in that if i go anywhere, i go on my own, also, we rarely entertain, generally its only family. Some times i feel he is being very selfish, and should make the effort, but he seems to resent his time being spent entertaining other people. Dsis, her family, and Dparents have been here for the day. Dsis is very domineering, bossy, and continually goes on about her affluent lifestyle, what she does etc, is very critical of people who dont conform with her norms, but she is obviously the favourite daughter. Dsis has not been nice to us over the years. I forgive and forget for sake of Dparents, who are elderly and have no knowledge of her attitude to us, but DH cannot. Consequently he makes little attempt to socialise, and sits reading the paper, although he happily did all the cooking/washing up/clearing up, as was getting more and more wound up by Dsis and was happier on his own in the kitchen, albeit doing all the jobs. AIBU to think he should make the effort in socialising, or do i accept this is who is is now. I feel so sad, (and angry) that his unsociability has impacted both our lives.