To think that attachment parenting hasn't really worked for me?

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When dd was born I liked all of the theory behind attachment parenting so I coslept, breastfed til dd was 3, tried slings (didn't get on with them ) etc. I didn't go back to work til dd was 18 months and am still in a PT role.
DD has had a sleep regression since Halloween which scared her. I have to lie next to her to get her to sleep and then she still comes into mine in the middle of the night. I wouldn't mind but she talks and I end up grumpy and shouting at her. I am tired and resentful and in all honesty I just want my own space. The trouble is when she's in bed with me the slightest sniffle disturbs me. I don't feel more bonded; I feel like I want to scream although I love her. This next week I am not working so will have to do sleep training. Any suggestions?

I am on my phone so can't link right now, but there are some interesting articles /studies out there regarding sleep. Pretty sure humans aren't supposed to sleep all the night through without waking...I read something like that anyway.

What about getting an advent calendar or something and if she sleeps in her own bed all night she can open it in the morning? We did similar with my DS at that age and it worked instantly.

My ds would go to sleep fine in his own room until age about 3. Then he started with night terrors, literally shaking with fright & ended up in with me more often than not. Did up his bedroom when he was about 4 & he would go to sleep but only with a dvd on. Now aged 6 he himself requested not to have the dvd on (originally cos he thought it would be too light for the tooth fairy to come) & just 2 night lights. It will get better!!!

No advice here, my 3 DDs have all been like this and have tried various things over the years. DD3 (3) is still like this. Hoping DS1 (5 weeks) will be different. I wouldn't label our style as AP, it is what it is, go with the flo I guess. I'm still confused about the whole sleep thing and have 4 dcs!

I'm not really keen on the term AP because I think that a lot of the AP stuff is more about toils and techniques to make it easier to respond appropriately to a baby rather than cosleeping being an end in itself iyswim.

Having said that Dr Sears is all about balance and boundaries - it's not AP to suffer endlessly if there is a way round it. You need to find either a way of not co-sleeping that works for your child or a way of cosleeping that works for you.

Things to consider might be bedtime relation CDs (relax kids are good), a readybed in your room for night wakings, a readybed in her room for you to sleep on when she wakes up ...

Don't think this is anything to do with attachment parenting tbh. I never did anything of the sort with dd, stopped bf at 6 months, never had a sling, she slept in her own bed from day1, albeit beside my bed. Always self settled. Now at 6yo she will happily sit on my knee all day if I let her, sucking her fingers and stroking her teddy bear. She also gets into my bed pretty much every morning and attaches herself Velcro style to me, so wherever I move she moves with me. She's a sensitive soul it seems and needs a lot of reassurance. That's ok with me, she will grow out of it eventually I'm sure.

There is nothing wrong if it doesn't suit you. There are no 'superior' ways of parenting. It doesn't suit all DCs either.
It won't work for lots of people-it will work for lots of people.
If a DC is loved unconditionally, and feels secure, it really doesn't matter if they sleep with you or not.

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